On Welcome Home
Emma, I agree -- it is unacceptable to leave the house without blush. (Also: bronzer, highlighter, mascara, eyebrow powder, and now the expensive BB cream I just bought. God, I'm sooo vain.)
@enic I don't want to look. What kind of shit are people saying?
Wow, the 'Pin seems to be divided on this one! I thought it was funny and not egregiously mean.
Remember that scene at the beginning of "Date Night" when Tina Fey and Steve Carrell guess that a young couple at the restaurant is on a first date, and invent weird dialogue for them? I'm not clever enough for that, but I do love eavesdropping on obvious first dates in bars or restaurants. Always a fun time.
Is this a safe space to say that I was obsessed with the Jonai (or JoBros, as some call them) for, like, a full year, during the peak of their popularity?
.... do I need to mention that at this time, I was a SENIOR in COLLEGE? On as scale of "red-faced with shame" to "hiding in the basement for the rest of my life," how embarrassed should I feel about this?
@OhMarie Why not improvise your own standing desk before you invest in a fancy one? Just get a large cardboard box or a stack of books and put your computer on top. When you want to sit, just move the box aside.
I also "work" from home (grad student, har har)and I tried using a faux-standing desk like that for a while. I have to say that I didn't care for it. It was uncomfortable and didn't make me feel more alert or focused. I'd much rather just get up from my chair a couple times per hour and take a stroll around the apartment, tidy up the kitchen, fold some laundry, whatever, and then get back to work. Of course, you might really like it, so who knows.
@Mira thanks for this recommendation, it looks great! I want to read it now for the sake of comparison
This is so true. I recently read (and am now re-reading) a book called "A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy," which suggests how to live in the 21st century according to the principles of the Roman Stoics. One of the cornerstones of the Stoic lifestyle is the practice of "negative visualization," i.e., at various points in your day, briefly imagine losing everything that you value -- your home, your possessions, your loved ones, your health and all your capabilities. This accomplishes two things: first, it makes you incredibly grateful for the things you do have and less likely to go chasing after new things in a vain effort to be happy; and second, it's meant to build up gradually your resistance to trauma, so that when really bad stuff happens, as it eventually will, you'll be more prepared to deal with it without losing your Stoic tranquility. Anyway, pretty good book -- if you like self-help and ancient philosophy, check it out.
@RK Fire I feel the same. I'm pretty sure the experience of the "Middle American woman" (which ... what do they even mean by that??) is VASTLY different depending on whether the woman is white, black, Hispanic, East Asian, South Asian, etc. This is one case where ethnicity/cultural background really seems to matter, and it doesn't make sense to ignore that.
Isn't the 20-something birthrate for black ladies so high (like, over 80%, according to the footnote on page 18) because so many black men are incarcerated? Right? Why wasn't that addressed? I understand that they wanted to focus on broad trends, but there's a big difference between "can't get married because guys my age mostly don't have good jobs" vs. "can't get married because guys my age are mostly *in prison*."
God damn it. I have to get up at 5 am on Monday to take the train to attend jury duty at 8 in a random-ass town. I could not be less happy about this. And I can't even bring my cell phone! *grump grump grump grump grump*