Last night I dreamt of a dilapidated stone ruin where, if we jumped from cairn to cairn in the correct pattern, a secret door in the ground opened up and permitted us to enter an underground crystal cavern full of friendly cats.
@ clara morena Hooray!! DO ask the Arch-Boy out. What an exhilarating sense of Doing A Thing you will feel afterward! Very not Carrie Bradshaw of you.
If I may - - I suggest that you cut out the end line "If you do not want to.." as there's no need to instruct him in what to do if he's not interested. Let him work it out in his own way. You can always delete a sad "Sorry, no" text, or mock it amongst friends later! I say, sally forth with confidence! Don't make it seem that you anticipate uninterest! Stun with your irresistible awesomeness!
OMFG. I feel like I've just pulled out my phone and re-read every conversation I'd ever had with my ex-dude. WHAT kind of magic spell did you cast to obtain the ability to write text dialogue that is so spot-on, pitch perfect?
@isabelle bleu Also, two out of three of my favourite urban myths about current hometown Vancouver, Canada revolve around the buildings that Mr. Flynn's ghost is supposed to haunt.
"HE REAL FIND: The "E!" True Hollywood Story of Errol Flynn"
@Alli525 Always wish that tenancy advice was more commonly available!! I think that writing such a column would be my DREAM JOB.
@whizz_dumb These are just some of the vaaast array of questions we get on an exceedingly regular basis. I could go on......
@chevyvan Hard to say exactly without knowing what city or state you are in, as the laws are absurdly different across jurisdictions. In general, I'd point you toward a) your tenancy agreement or lease agreement, which should outline clearly services that are to be provided; b) city by-laws, which should state either clearly or not at all as to whether the owner or occupant is responsible for snow-clearing and general standards of maintenance; and c) your state tenancy laws. On point c), most larger cities and certainly most states should have a non-profit that provides good advice around tenant's rights.
Once you've done your research, and should that research confirm that the landlord is indeed responsible, I usually suggest that the first thing to do is write one of those polite-reminder letters advising that 1) there's a maintenance issue that has gone unaddressed 2) the dates of this/these issues were noted 3) a reminder that the city bylaw and/or your tenancy agreement requires that this service/work be provided by landlord and 4) thanking them in advance for attending to this outstanding issue. Keep a copy of this and all other correspondence for your records, and as future evidence in the hopefully unlikely scenario that you have to call the city or another enforcement authority.
The key here is to be sure of the landlord's responsibility to do so, and to document that you have been proactive in trying to resolve the issue cordially and cooperatively, which will make you look like the reasonable party to any outside intervenors. So long as the lease agreement or local laws are clear in who's responsible for snow removel, your landlord oughtn't really give you guff; you are correct to point out that, in the end, any sustained injuries could only result in more headaches and increased insurance premiums than simply removing the snow and ice would ever cause.
I work at an agency that assists renters when they run into tenancy problems, and I have to say, I find this sort of info for renters to be awfully condescending and inconsequential pap. While I'm sure it's nice that a fraction of renters found ice cream to be a help in their time of need, I'd much prefer a colourful (questionably) well-designed infographic that advises around topics such as: How did you get your deposit back? Is the tenancy legal if I'm only allowed to pay in cash and there's no receipts? Can a landlord refuse your Section 8 funding? Are there legal provisions for breaking the lease when your ex-partner starts stalking you and your kids again? or How can my landlord evict me for having a cat when I've lived here for three and a half years without it being an issue?
ETA: I also think that finding solace in cocktails is cute for your average non-alcoholic middle-class renter. Less cute when you're being evicted because your alcoholic family member overstayed their welcome during a visit for a funeral or a medical appointment, say, and damaged the rental unit. REAL TALK
@noodge Yesss! If only people knew how far their tree usually travels, and in what remedial care they are so often left!!! I live up here in Canada, that great far north, and have a stocking stuffed full of anecdotes from acquaintances who, while in their twenties, got paid handfuls of cash to drive across the border and live out of a camper for a month while selling fir trees on the street corners of Brooklyn, Boston and Philadelphia.
Awaaaaaaay back at the turn of the century some art school pals toured North America with a Smell-O-Vision revival show.