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On Man Quits Internet: Goodbye, Hugo Schwyzer

Since this is my burner account created specifically so I could say what a creep Hugo was (and is), I can't help but sign back in with a little comment jig of delight about this. I actually squealed loudly when I saw this post because it's like my two worlds have collided: my favorite site meets someone I knew as a teenager and who certainly changed the way I looked at authority figures.
This post is mostly just me venting about him. He's rank; you all know that, and so do I, but I knew him when I was a teenager, and it was very real what he was doing with my friend- feminism was far from our minds. At the time, he was married to the woman whose tampon he famously pulled out, and whom he cheated on with my 17-year-old (at the time) friend while he was in a leadership position. His mental illness became evident then, and as their relationship progressed, it became obvious that he had abused his position of trust (honestly, we may have been stupid and naive, but he was suave, and smooth and convincing as a friend and leader when we were kids). She told me intimate details about their thing and it went from being funny and risqué to being scary for her. She broke things off, and years after their relationship ended, he friended me on facebook. I accepted, mostly out of morbid curiosity as to what he was up to. I know this is hypocritical in a lot of ways, but to me, he was just my friend's crazy ex-boyfriend- I was interested and she asked me for updates on him. His avid defenders boggle me to an extent, but as one of several people who were taken in by his personal charm at one time or another, I can sort of believe it. It makes sense. He reaches so many people with his courses, and he is (or, was) charming in person, as sociopaths are wont to be. I do feel sorry for his wife and children, and sorry for all of the women he's been involved with over the years. Like others have said here, I'm sure he'll be back.
At any rate, I realize that sharing this here has little to do with his place in feminism (aside from how egregious he is) and reiterates what a lot of people already know about him. However, I will never forget how he abused his power with young people, and has continued to lie about it for years. I wondered for a moment if, when he said he had an affair in the interview, he was referring to my friend, but she's probably just one of many. Basically, this vignette is just indicative of how deceptive he is and was, to himself and others.

Posted on August 1, 2013 at 6:42 pm 12

On Crushes on Professors and "How Can I Tell If I'm Boring?"

@antipretty I'm signing in under a different account from my usual name just to say, I know Schwyzer personally, and have for quite a while. I don't think he's terrible in quite the same way I used to, but man, yes, he's (was and no longer 'is'? I hope!?) the perfect example of a professorial power-abuser. I think he's actually grown up a lot in the past several years, but I knew him more when he was actually being a creep and using his position of power to seduce young women. If other professors who hook up with their students are as batshit-crazy-deluded as he was about his position and the women involved (and I'm assuming the majority of professors who get involved with their current/just barely of-age students are), then for the love of god, steer clear. It's all awesome and funny and grown up and sexy when you're 17 or 18, but that's why these profs are so disgusting: they're knowingly using the naivete of their students for sex and ego stroking. And it almost never ends well. I'm not trying to just rag on Hugo- there's plenty of that already in the comments of sections of Jezebel and xoJane. I am saying, use Hugo as a cautionary tale and DON'T DO IT LW 1!!!

Posted on November 10, 2012 at 7:44 am 7