@coolallison How did you go? I've never tried it, but I bet I would find it like not being allowed to think of a pink elephant.
@frenz.lo That sounds bad! It is hard when good people get screwed over. I hope everything turns out ok.
@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) If you feel like she or her daughters might be in danger, even if you feel silly about it, you could voice your concern to her and let her know that whatever she chooses, you'll be there for her. It's good that you're looking out for her.
@cabber I have some great friends and they basically do what @ New Commenter Name describes, and I find that suuuuper helpful. It's good to have people who are willing to take things seriously and have some input when you ask for it.
Thank you very much. That was helpful to read. Sometimes it is hard to judge these things. Realising every now and then that you might have forgotten that it is ok to have your own thoughts on things and not need to justify why, that's something you've reminded me of. Thank you!
@MissJudgeMental please ignore my typos, the site was misbehaving and I missed the editing window *clock radio* is a thing, *kick radio* probably not a thing.
Hello 'Pinners! A question/seeking advice. I'm sensitive in relationships about being controlled. I freak out about men being in my personal space for too long (go home men! To your own place!) or when I live with a boyfriend I sometimes get constantly anxious about making them angry and feel like I have to do all the domestic tasks to avoid getting yelled at. This comes from childhood. So, obviously, this is maladaptive. But I still need my warning system in case of real baddies. How do I trust it when it is so super-charged? My "you're bossing me around, oh god, you want to dominate and control me" radar is possibly crazy, but possibly not. How do I evaluate potential threats? Eg. A dude I was dating kept harping in about wanting me to wake up early with him when he started work at 5am and wanted me to get a kick radio which I don't want because I need lots if sleep and their glowing numbers keep me awake. At what point does the conversation in which he asks me to do this (the repeated conversation) become him being a controlling jerk? To me, sleep = my precious mental health, and lack of sleep = weakness and susceptibility to being pushed around. And the other tricky thing is that during conversations like this, my nervous system starts to spin out into a panic, which makes it at least feel unpleasant, adding to what I think is my difficulty evaluating these things. Help?
@GalacticRabbit Thank you for your kind reply. I'll go look at that website.
Beautiful horoscopes, I'm trying to give them up. Silly question, if I'm very late in the Capricorn piece, a few days before the end, can I be a bit of Aquarius, too? Aquarius' star map is what I want to believe I hold right now. Just had my first relationship in years where it felt like it could be long-term and something special, then I had to break it off for sensible, adult, "better off doing this when the timing is not going to destroy any chance it has" reasons.
Also, I'm a fool, constantly.
@maebytonight @nevergiveaninch @chevyvan Hugs to you all & @Maladydee that is fantastic advice and so I want to hug you and seek your advice when I am heartbroken which I often am, a little bit.