@blueblazes Nice! I used to use pig tails as my dude repellent, because they look crazy nerdy on me. Then one day a dude was like 'man, you look awesome in braids.' Still with him, two years later.
The keepers are just like that, I think.
Ahhhh yes so many times over. This was beautiful.
I wonder, Jia/other ladies, if you notice the flip side of this: when you're with a dude (even just a friend!) do you ever feel like people are ONLY leaving you alone because of the dude? I do. It sort of drives me bonkers, because, no, I'm a person! You should bother me either all the time or not at all, but not just when I'm dude-less. At the same time, I sort of revel in the break of obnoxious looks, conversations, touches, etc. whenever I'm with dudes. It's a bummer.
@Rock and Roll Ken Doll @j-i-a -- true points all around and i've seen those stories and all the others out there, probably, but for me, hairpin has always been my respite from the snark and one-upping jokes of the internet. my favorite parts of hairpin have always be its thoughtful, honest, irreverent at times, and even earnest pieces and conversations (interviews with virgins! my favorite of yours! i read those, and their comments, like two times over)...this felt like snark, less of that real talk vibe.
and oh yeah, journalists are good fun at parties, @hallelujah.
It's a pity that instead of having a serious conversation on why the country is rejecting and freaking out over this story (or at least the image in front of the story) and whether that's appropriate or right, we're making fun of a story that looks at the human side of violent radicalization -- a story that gets to the core and most terrifying aspect of home-grown terrorism. Instead,this just petulantly pokes fun of the magazine's pop culture side.
"I remember at camp, we had this yearbook that we put out at the end of each summer, and every year there would be a list of kids whose names and pictures couldn’t be in it, because they had a parent who wasn’t supposed to have any contact with them or know where they were. So we’d have to black out their faces. In retrospect, those poor kids. I can’t imagine"
Wait, what? Like, parental witness protection? Confused but mostly sad, this sound so sad.
@fondue with cheddar Interview With Someone Who Was Courted Via Newspapers
Ah, courtship and newspapers. RIP.
LW1 brings up so much of that single friend/coupled friend tension/anxiety that i see. i am totally sick of that! i've been on both sides.
anyone else totally flummoxed by this? anyone else have horror stories? i tend to deal by absolutely ignoring it, because i think it's dumb, but i dunno...
@iceberg i mean, it makes sense that you won't know the q's on OKCupid, but there were people who were weird about dating back and your day i am sure. tools changed, not the moves, ya know?
LW3, wait, man. it doesn't change much, but i found being a slightly older virgin (lost it at 23) helped me navigate early relationships, because it was easier to say no when i didn't actually want that person. for me, the first months after i started, i wanted to bone ALL THE TIME. it's nice to go through those (awkward) first few months with someone who is crazy about you and vice versa!
@iceberg I feel like LW1 SHOULD be 'i can't empathize with the urgent desire for intimacy and connection she seems to be displaying so i worry i'm not sensitive in the way that other single people can be,' because that 'oh, is this what the kids are doing these days?' is mad condescending...it seemed condescending to me and i'm coupled. i think A Lady read it as 'i'm married, i can't understand the singles!', though. i read it that way too.
dating doesn't change that much, people are always people. sex is always sex. so tired of this 'coupled friend'/'single friend' tension.