@Sophie's World Off topic but Sophie's World is my favorite book ever and no one has ever read it, let alone used it as their login name, so in short, I love you, and welcome!
Also... we do know how to spell Chanukah! It's spelled חנוכה! It's not our fault the English language lacks guttural letters!
My grandmother was disabled in NYC and she did ok! I think she got "lucky" in that she already had a job working for the government when she lost the use of her legs, so she got top of the line benefits/care for the times (1967). She was also already married and had two semi-grown kids, so she had more assistance than a single girl in the city, but she used to say that NYC was nice to be disabled in since things were so walkable (or wheelable i guess) and you could get everything delivered. That said, she used to have to carry around a special bus key that would enable the bus driver to lower the ramp, because otherwise they'd claim not to have it.