Signed in just to say this was masterful storytelling, and I can't wait to hear it on the Moth Radio Hour
I rarely, if ever, manage the 360 degree turn; I've had leakage once, but otherwise, smooth sailing. I love the divacup because (a) I am cheap (b) no risk of TSS and (c) people are faintly grossed out by it, sometimes, which I think is funny. I do suspect that tampons, as a product, are better suited to adapt to a variety of vaginal shapes/sizes. But if a cup works for your particular body, man, IT WORKS.
My one peeve with this article: penetrative vaginal sex does not enlarge the vagina permanently. During/immediately after, yes. Longterm, no. This is a myth, and it's an icky phallocentric myth, and I wish it would just go away.
The best time my sweet-but-misguided ex-boyfriend heard my friends and me talking about wanting to try the Diva Cup and proceeded to surprise me with one as a present: Valentine's Day 2010.
@sarahchristine hahah I always get #25?
One time I got: "You know, you're going to need to work a little bit harder to seduce me." I just burst out laughing and called him a dick. Response: "No, you know, where's the lingerie and cat moves??" (note: still unclear what the hell a 'cat move' is) So I obliged by ignoring him for a while, which is the ultimate cat move.
By George Templeton Strong on "What Could We Have Been If We Hadn't Put All That Energy Into Being Hidden?"
I am in a long-lasting (27 years!) same-sex relationship and every year it gets easier, thanks to people like Edith and Thea. At Thanksgiving I gave thanks for my husband and the fact that I can finally have one, at least in New York. My New Year's resolution is to spend the rest of my life with him. It's strange to feel so grateful to two women whom I've never met, one of whom I never will, at least in this life.
By amitygardens@twitter on "What Could We Have Been If We Hadn't Put All That Energy Into Being Hidden?"
@noReally It is just so moving. Tears are streaming. Thank you Emma for reminding me how lucky I am to be married to the person I love.
Just chiming in to champion Emma Forrest's excellent memoir "Your Voice in My Head" - not sure if I'd call it a "coming of age" story, but it's a really lovely exploration of her twenties/thirties.
I'm also reminded of something Emily Gould said once - "If a woman writes about herself, she's a narcissist. If a man does the same, he's describing the human condition."
I worked in a herpes lab for three years and am now a med student (who actually got STD lectures today). Reading & writing scientific papers on herpes has given me a huge appreciation for the virus. It's co-evolved with us for at least 3 million years, mostly just hangs out not causing problems, and a huge part of the population has it.
It's also important to note that serologic tests are variable; serologic tests on the same person can show up negative and then positive at different times. My boss, who did herpes research for more than 30 years, was convinced that almost everyone had exposure to, and possibly infection with, both HSV-1 AND HSV-2, and that most people would never know it. It just hangs out in your body! You're going to be okay.
tl;dr after working in a herpes lab for 3 years, I do not think herpes is a big deal and most people have it anyway. Let's stop stigmatizing disease!
Excellent piece, thank you!
How come one of the policy solutions (in addition to suicide and exile) is not simply changing the law to treat student debt like any other kind of debt? If we really want college education to be a marketplace, let it be an actual fucking marketplace where you lose your money if you lend it out stupidly. If you want to guarantee access to everyone, subsidize college so it's super cheap or free. These are both things that can theoretically be done through the political system.