On Ask a Fancy Person: First Parties, Working for Free, and What to Do When Your Gym Is Crawling with Children
@dotcommie Agreed. I used to think this was done on purpose and rude, and then . . . I started lifting heavy. It's often involuntary and some people think it protects your spine because a heavy exhale tenses the muscles in your core. You wouldn't get salty at someone breathing heavy while they were sprinting; same principle.
@sheistolerable Just to clarify, that name is made up based on the article . . .
In a world where male is viewed as the default you're basically buying yourself blind peer review (which I'm surprised poetry journals don't have, but whatever.) Is your pseudonym linked to your other work anywhere? What if someone likes your poetry and wants to know more about this Mr. "Tristan Smith?"
I wanted to make something for a friend's baby and I read on the internet that acrylic is best because wool can cause allergies, so I went to my local lovely little yarn shop and looked around for a while. Finally I asked, "Don't you have any acrylic? It's for a baby."
Look of utter horror from yarn shop employee (older male, which struck me as unusual.)
"Acrylic is FLAMMABLE! If that baby catches on fire, it'll be all over with! You want wool. That's what Navy SEALs wear. It keeps you warm even when it's soaking wet."
I have questions about this vision of the universe where my friend's baby is allowed to remain soaking wet and is in constant danger of catching on fire.
@AmandaElsewhere My experience has been the same as the other commenter: it depends on the store. If you're looking for work clothes, find a store in a middle-class or up area, and not one frequented by teens. Also the wealthier people are, the more clothes they buy and get rid of, so if you go to a thrift store in a poorer area (like the one where I live) it tends to be a lot of Old Navy/Forever 21 stuff that's very, very worn; in wealthier areas you'll get stuff that was more expensive to begin with, and sometimes even still has tags.
In my experience church thrift stores are great places to find work-appropriate plus size women's clothing in decent shape.
Does anyone have the link to the NY Times piece? Also, thanks for signal boosting, I will now be following Jamelle.
I swear by everything holy I was googling "feminist games" the other night and moping around about why I couldn't find anything diverting and creative. (Googling feminist games mainly gets you feminist blogs talking about what's wrong with gaming culture.) Hairpin, I love you for introducing me to Porpentine.
@mynamebackwards FYI, it is right on the Freedom Trail so you may have a lot of tourists gawking at you, assuming you're not out enjoying our fair city yourself. I know I always take a moment to contemplate and ask myself, WHY.
@Kira-Lynn@twitter I agree. (I'm trying to upvote, but it's not working.)
There do exist dietitians who give sound nutrition advice without focusing on weight loss as a goal and with sensitivity to the emotional aspects of eating, and I'd love to see a column from someone with that training.