@sophia_h So I'm trying to be thoughtful about this, and I am posing this as a general opinion, not necessarily specific to this case, but do I think there's a point at which an individual's behavior can become fatally incompatible with an identity they're claiming, no matter how invested they are in it. For example, some women who are (actively, politically) against abortion rights, but consider themselves feminists.
While I think there's value in trying to phase out certain concepts which are in many ways outdated and which do nothing to help anyone (virginity, I'm looking at you!), I think there also has to be recognition that so long as we are still using those words, that they have a certain meaning, as all words do. If that makes sense.