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By Jaime San on Talking to Heather Doney and Rachel Coleman About Child Abuse, the Quiverfull Movement and Homeschooling Policy Reform
There are a ton of us out here who are neither fundies nor hipsters. A lot of us are educated folks who see the public school model as great, but see the opportunities our kids get as homeschoolers as even better.
My kids are 3-5 grade levels ahead in math, 6 -8 years ahead in reading, and you wouldn't believe their elocution skills. We do it all in 3 hours a day of 'work'. The rest of the time? Museums, Soccer with other kids (of all ages), Math Club, Science Team, Debate Team, camping, a state and national level traveling sports team, reading, chess, reading, and just flat out messing around down by the lake.
Our neighbors kids do public school from 7am to 4pm (bus to bus), then have another 2 hrs of homework. In their free time they play video games and nothing else. At school their 'age-appropriate' socialization is the usual unsupervised hazing, bullying, and mean-girls bs that we all remember and hated in middle-school. Learning to navigate The Lord of the Flies culture that is public middle school, or the football-jock culture that is public high school is teaching them exactly what now?
Also, quit being sexist. There are quite a few of us Dads who stay at home while mom works.
By polka dots vs stripes on Talking to Heather Doney and Rachel Coleman About Child Abuse, the Quiverfull Movement and Homeschooling Policy Reform
It must be difficult to be an activist in a sphere that is such a big part of your families' identities; it sounds like Heather and Rachel have good relationships with some of their siblings/parents but I wonder how their work has impacted those relationships (especially given that, from my experience, large families can tend to splinter off just based on personality types, much less activism trying to reform the way you grew up).
Interviews like this make me miss the old Hairpin community, even though I was a limited participant. This was really interesting!
By buckachu on Grandma's Proxy
This is really beautiful. Thank you for sharing it.
There's also this piece from Vanity Fair in 1992 which really helps you understand the whole situation even more, and it is epicly fucked. There's tons of stuff in there I didn't know, like that Soon-Yi is both developmentally and learning disabled. Whole new layer of yuck on that aspect too.
'You seem lighter than other people.' That is an amazing way to describe someone, and exactly the kind of person I aspire to be. These thoughts express a lot of the feelings I've had since my divorce at age 30. I'm getting the book right away!
By Woman of thirty on The Single Woman Need Not Be Eternally Panic-Stricken: An Interview With Sara Eckel
This is a really inspiring article. At the stage I'm in right now (married early, divorced last year at 30, underpaid, underachieving), I sometimes get a leeeeetle bit panicky!
Everything about this interview was great. For me, being single and older and vacillating between loneliness and not having time or energy to put into a relationship, the advice to just relax and let it be is really good to hear. Hard to do, but good to hear.
And the interviewer was so good! I just assumed it must be Jia doing the interview, but when I looked it was Jen Doll!
Reading Between the Texts is one of my favorite features on Hairpin, hands down.
HAIRPIN SUCCESS STORY! like probably else, I discovered Katie on here, and I freaking love everything she writes and cannot wait to buy this. So great to see everything going wonderfully for her.
Also tbh, re: the cover, I was hoping she'd address if her dress and the wallpaper match in real life, and where one can buy both.
You made your own empowering choice. I doubt seriously that what you endured could be called tolerating it. I completely understand your point of view. During my assault I felt the best thing to do was make sure I lived and he was caught. I had no opportunity to take control during the assault itself because I was asleep in my home when it began, however, I protected myself from the nightmare of seeing his face in my dreams by never looking at him, and I took control by feigning sympathy and engaging him in conversation. He left in tears, but not by my physicality. It was my "compassion" and his own guilt that made him cry. That is what worked for me with that man. It may not work for me again.
The thing about feeling empowered is that you are more able to keep thinking. That's what keeps you alive. The fact that you remember that you had choices shows that you were thinking. You are clearly a strong woman.