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I never comment but had to for this. I am pregnant with my second, and the plan from the beginning was to give the first kid my last name if a boy (my family has no boys) and his if a girl (his family has no girls). Second kid gets the other parents last name. So we had a girl, and now this one (also a girl) will have my last name. Reactions have been SHOCKINGLY negative: 'but then you guys will end up on teams based on last name,' 'are you sure that's legal?' to the sarcastic 'good luck.' The only people unfazed are the women I knit with, bless them.
This issue is one I constantly debate about. Yes, women WERE property & men claimed ownership. It's not that way anymore. The woman is the one who goes through so much carrying that child. Then comes labor, which is , too painful to describe. Then the child gets the man's name. Also, if the parents divorce, the mother usually has the child live with her AND now they have 2 different last names.
I cannot understand why more women aren't questioning this.
And don't even get me started on the women who take their husband's name.
By TheBelleWitch on In Support of Debra Harrell, Jailed for Letting Her 9-Year-Old Play Unsupervised in the Park
@philomene Except crime rates are down across the board.
There's also the point that while playing alone in the park may not be an ideal childcare situation, there is nothing less ideal than arresting a parent and putting her child in state custody.
By pajamaralls on In Support of Debra Harrell, Jailed for Letting Her 9-Year-Old Play Unsupervised in the Park
More and more, I think it'd be refreshing to be explicitly told "Hey, minorities/women/low income people, this is designed specifically for you to fail. Carry on."
We gave our daughter my last name, and our son my husband's. When my daughter was born I had recently lost my brother, so I wanted to honor my small, close family by giving my daughter both my last name and my fierce grandmother's maiden name as her first name. My husband's paternal grandparents were very special to him, so we used his last name for our son. I got the "isn't that confusing?" question a lot. Answer: No, it isn't. The pediatrician, dentist, karate studio and public schools all dealt with it easily, people who rolled their eyes about it at first quickly got used to the idea, or even admitted that they thought it was kind of cool. My kids, now 19 and 22, were talking about this issue recently, and both said they liked how each of their names represented a connection to all sides of our family's past and the people who were important to us- and my daughter has always loved that she has my last name.
Had to pop down here and note that for me one of the funniest, dumbest, and most consistent reactions to this highly reasonable point of view is when people are like "BUT WHERE DID THE **AUTHOR'S** NAME COME FROM? A MAN? HER FATHER? REALLY MAKES U THINK"
.... does it now
Thanks to all of you for reading! I just wanted to clarify that Randy and I were never married, so I wasn't responsible for the bill. An important detail.
@Mistress Sparrow If it changes your mind any about the state of YA literature today, The Book Thief was actually published as adult fiction in Australia (where the author is from) and in many other countries. It was largely labelled as YA in the US because of the young protagonist.
Aww. I traveled a bit when I was 22 as well and turned down a number of these.
In 2007, when I was 34, I went to Burning Man to finish rebuilding myself after a bad breakup. A few nights in, I met a guy and we flirted through a game of putt putt on the playa. He kissed me, I smiled, and I walked away.
The next day, I found a different guy in a dust storm. He kissed me, and I went back to his tent with him. Four months later, he packed his stuff and his cat and moved from California to Texas to be with me. Four years after that, we got married. Sometimes those chance encounters while you're traveling are just for the moment, like a firework. Sometimes, though, the booming doesn't stop and they're forever.
Oh rats, it took me too long to read this so I can't get in a sick burn!
(Can I just once again say, though: *what* is going on with these one-off, burner accounts to trash on 'Pin articles/writers! This pattern is unpleasant!)