@yossariangirl Look into the Curly Girl method! I was just coming down here to post about it, since I tried the baking soda/ACV method once and I have never before seen my hair be frizzy -in the shower- until that day.
Tips are all over the internet, but my only advice is that you don't have to use the associated line of products, which are not cheap; the method gives you all necessary tools to find drugstore equivalents. If you live near one, I highly recommend finding a salon that will do a DevaCut for you, it was the best thing I did for my hair and I got to try all the fancy expensive products included. (and @commanderbanana, I use mayo as a leave-in treatment! And I relish the response I get when people tell me my hair looks so shiny and I tell them why)
@nevergiveaninch I missed this thread entirely, but I have to comment because regardless of your orientation, Autostraddle has an amazing series called "Lez Get Dressed for Work" and every installation is fantastic. They cover both femme-y and more androgynous tastes and their article on suits is my fav.
On Susan Faludi on Facebook Feminism & the Danger of "Individual Women Empowering Themselves by Deserting Other Women"
@TheBelleWitch The first time I heard the phrase "lean in" was Liz Lemon on going to an ex's wedding alone: "Maybe I'll just lean into it and bring a cat and a baby stroller" and that's the only way I've used it ever since.
@lasso tabasco It's a fun time waster if nothing else! Haven't worked up the courage to meet anyone yet, but it's great just to procrastinate. My advice is that you'll figure out what works/what doesn't on your profile. On a whim I bragged about my breadth of knowledge of youtube under "message me if" and most messages I get are dudes asking for recommendations. Since a sense of humor that aligns with mine is way important to me, I can judge them if they just send me some autotuned bullshit when I ask what their favorite video is! It turned out to be a way valuable tool, for when I maybe eventually stop pussing out and meet a dude
@karenb I have eczema and depending on the season, my face will start to dry out if I don't moisturize it, esp. when I get out of the shower. If you've never had dry skin before, probably a facial moisturizer will do fine (eucerin and cetaphil both make great ones, and they usually have bonus spf). Because my skin guzzles moisture, I just use regular body lotion with no scents/bells/whistles
@Danzig! Seriously every time I'm at a party where I don't know many people, just this line creeps unbidden into my mind
@bookfreak My first thought was "What if it WAS a 'pinner??" but then I realized that of course we would all know the name. Qream is etched into the very lobes of our brains
@love and other indoor sports I have the same ritual as @wee_ramekin, I also use Nair if that helps (have never been able to shave pubic hair cleanly, possibly because I am an idiot) but it would be safest if you had a few hours to spot-test it beforehand, as it irritates some people's skin. I have sensitive skin but as long as I finish with a cold water rinse & moisturize immediately afterwards it's never bothered me!
Also woo woo hope your first time is a great one! It's pointless to say b/c I agonized about the same thing, but once you're actually in the moment you realize that the only thing your partner is thinking is "holy shit vagina yes," regardless of how it's dressed, and no one has ever commented on my pubic hair one way or another
ETA: Also don't use Nair to remove all your pubic hair, i.e. don't let it near yer interior bits, chemicals and vaginal flora do not mix
@cminor brb drinking more wine alone (/laughing?)
@Aspiriationally Natalie As a fellow about-to-be-graduate probably about to try to break into a similarly structured career path, I salute you. I'm a lazy baby and not starting the job hunt until during/after my summer job, so good for you getting it done with graduation looming! I'm sending you ALL the positive energy!