@dora_leigh Very interesting! I bet my gal friend was researching donor egg IVF as she has a female partner.
I'm really curious as to what the cost is. Not as far as raising children as a single mum, but rather, impregnation via sperm donation. I have a gal friend who looked into it in the past and if I remember correctly, it's incredibly expensive.
@S. Elizabeth It totally is a different issue. I was just getting ranty and off-topic so sorry about that.
And yeah, again, this girl is totally in the wrong. I think I just sympathize for her because I know how hard it can be. It sucks to have to always remind your friends you can't afford what they can. I remember being in sweats at a dinner where I'd had water and a salad, but friends asked the bill to be split evenly amongst the group to make it easiest for the server. I had to speak up because I couldn't afford to split their appetizers and drinks. It's an awful feeling so I can understand how shame can inspire some poor decisions.
Blargh, I didn't read all the comments but I really dislike the vibe on this thread. Of course this gal just needs to speak up and/or not go out to fancy dinners, but the financial piety that comes up in these kinds of discussions hurts my heart.
Look, I'll ALWAYS be the girl who has to turn down her friends' fancy dinner invites. It's not because I don't want to hang out with them or because I'm immature or just beginning my career, it's because I'm a social worker and will NEVER make enough money for your dinners.
So yeah, she should turn down the dinners or speak up, but she's not a MONSTER.
Also: please don't talk about your crazy bonuses or turning down a job offer that ONLY pays 60k at dinner with your friends working in nonprofits. It makes me cry inside.
Okay, rant over. Sorry. :(
I was in a similar situation and I totally still moved to New City and 6 years later, I still live in New City and it's the best thing I ever did for myself. So I say do it.
I had a little bit of drama with The Dude at first but nothing too crazy and six years later, we still hang out sometimes.
To keep myself from being too over-thinky about the Dude when I was first planning my move, I instead obsessed over potential online dates and started emailing with fellas and had a couple dates set up before I moved. It was a helpful distraction.
@parallel-lines I've been embroidering for a few years now and the sulky transfer pens are my favorite: http://www.sulky.com/transferpens/
The lines can come out super thick though, which can be hard to cover with your thread. I usually make a couple of strokes with the pen on a scrap sheet of paper before I start tracing my transfer design and that makes it a little less thick.
Sublime stitching transfer paper is cool too but doesn't always come out dark enough for me: http://www.sublimestitching.com/collections/transfer-tools/products/carbon-transfer-paper
LW 1) Do you drink? Ferreals, alcohol isn't always the answer but I think you should have a couple glasses of wine, hop in the shower with your hubbie, hold your nose and take the plunge. But don't actually hold your nose. Put your hands to better use. You can do this.
@bananab0at Right? Like, I feel a bit Older and Wiser than most of these questioners but still don't think they should be belittled and made fun of? This dude & lady rubbed me the wrong way.
@special_boots A few years ago, TNT kept airing this commercial for a George Clooney movie (One Fine Day, maybe?) where he used the word "panties," and um... I like it when he says it.
@Nicole Cliffe Hurrah! You have soothed my conscience. Youthfulness (and reassured moles), here I come!