I'm sure it's an interesting book, but the phrase "a book of women talking about the processes of becoming themselves" just made me want to go lie down for the rest of the day.
Maybe I'll click on your link tomorrow.
@emsiela I call bullshit on the "I love you more every day". Sure, some people feel that way, but I think it's a little cliche and people don't really feel that way.
There are days where I do NOT love my husband more than I loved him the day before. Any time someone says this I think of the two days in my marriage that disprove this to me. One day, my wonderful husband snuck out of bed, turned the heater up obscenely high so I would be warm, left the house and came home with coffee, bagels and flowers. The next day, we got in some dumb fight in the car and I made him pull over so I could get out and he left me on the side of the road.
I 100% did not love the husband who left me on the side of the road more than the one who turned the heater up to lure me out of bed. I think waxing and waning is the normal state of things and is fine and healthy.
The second thing, abut the "fireworks all the time"- I also can't stand that. I had a very passionate relationship with a dirt-bag. It was very fireworks all the time-y. It SUCKED it was unhealthy and stupid. I knew I was in love with my husband when on Day 10 of knowing each other, we sat on the couch eating pasta and watching Netflix and there was a warm, nice content feeling. No fireworks. We got engaged 3 days later and then married 4 months after that. People assume all the time there must have been some kind of love-at-first-sight, fireworks kind of situation. Not so, it was more that we felt so comfortable and happy we just couldn't imagine wanting to go through the drama and rigamarole of dating when we liked just being us.
Don't let weird hallmark cliches turn you off of marrying someone you want to marry.
I...I just...I think my ovaries exploded?
This interview was amazing and he seems like the perfect combination of big dick and progressive and sensitive.
@fabel I was all pumped to find my cervix until you described it that way! Now I'm afraid I'll also find, like...a mouth, and eyes.:(
@Franny I loved Tamora Pierce as a child, especially the Tortall Universe, but then I was going back through the Circle of Magic series, and, while it's nice that there are female protags and female protags of color, some of the magic and culture stuff seemed a bit essentialist and stereotypical in a way that felt like a tiny bit of grit as far as my enjoyment of the series. If I were going to recommend them to a kid, I'd probably want to reread with a fine-toothed comb, with my lit major critical brain on high alert and all.
ETA: Dealing with Dragons was my jam as a child. Cherries Jubilee: never forget.
By Shara on 5 Conversations Resulting From the Scene In The Counselor Involving Cameron Diaz's Vagina
@Ellie I could sort of do it as a kid, but when I started practicing yoga a few years ago I was far from being able to get my legs down. I worked on it for a few months and I can finally do it pretty comfortably after some warming up. Keep practicing-- it feels great to feel those thighs touch down for the first time!
By finguns on 5 Conversations Resulting From the Scene In The Counselor Involving Cameron Diaz's Vagina
@Ellie I did it! It took several years of working up to it, but I learned to do a split at 36. It's not like riding a bike, though. I quit doing it when people got tired of my party trick and now my body has forgotten how.
@hallelujah I also think it's a class thing, too, right? Like. . . I don't know if I'm saying this right, but so many of my friends where I come from had kids very young, and it wasn't a mythical transformation at all, there wasn't some big chasm between us. They didn't see it that way, and I didn't either. It was just life, right? I've done a lot of childcare, I've had friends with kids move in with me after break-ups or after job losses, and it was all just life. This kind of myth-making really seems the province of people for whom every (let's be real: fairly conventional) decision is exalted. (This could just be the chip on my shoulder, as a non-picket-fencer! I admit this!) And I'm not denying that life changes after you have a child - your responsibilities & priorities shift - but you are still who you are, kid or no kid. My friends are still who they are, who they were.
By TheBelleWitch on Susan Faludi on Facebook Feminism & the Danger of "Individual Women Empowering Themselves by Deserting Other Women"
Bra-VO. The conversation really is never about policy reform.
As a side note, Sheryl Sandberg has blighted the world of management with the phrase "lean in." Now, as far as emails at my company have it, no one ever "does more of something" or "coordinates with" or "starts an effort." No, we lean in to [XYZ]. Kill. Me. Now.
I know this is an unpopular opinion, but I took the photo as "What's Your Excuse?" for not working as hard as you can to get what you want. I'm sure there's some good genetics at play here--I work out 5-6 times a week and don't look a think like that, but I also don't intend to. I exercise because it keeps intense anxiety at bay, and in that regard, it's successful and I mostly meet my objectives.
But I'm also guilty of not working as hard at my goals (physical or otherwise) because there are convenient excuses all around me, and I believe this is the attitude this woman was trying to combat.
Bottom line is, this woman obviously worked super hard to achieve what she wanted, even id what she wanted isn't what I want. I believe she was trying to use that as inspiration to others. I don't think if it was a muscle-y dude he'd be subject to cries of fat shaming that this woman has been. Or a woman volunteering at a shelter, as @Rookie suggests, would be accused of gloating. She's proud of herself, and challenging other to be proud of themselves also. Why do we have to shout down women with self-confidence all.the.fucking.time?