@JanieS Yes! Exactly. I don't question her life choices either. She ended up in a happy relationship with someone she loved who treated her as an intellectual equal and vice versa. She had strong moral character and followed what she knew was right for her.
I actually think the engagement chicken story makes some sense. Women who make engagement chicken and have in mind that it is engagement chicken and they would like to get engaged "because of it" are simultaneously women who are in a serious enough relationship that they envision that engagement is something that may feasibly occur. People in a serious enough relationship that engagement may be feasibly envisioned are likely to . . . get engaged in the near future. Voilà!
@chickpeas akimbo I do think that having the experience of what it is like to have something in there makes stuff in there easier in the future. I am relatively small and the first few times I had sex it was *incredibly* difficult to achieve penetration, for quite a while. But eventually it got a lot easier because you sort of learn how it is supposed to feel. I think that could be a factor. I have sex often enough now that it never hurts but I kind of miss it, actually. But probably not enough to take a deliberate hiatus!
@meowmischen It is definitely different for everyone as I forget I have my period with tampons in! Sometimes I even wish I didn't forget because that means I forget to hold the string out of the way when I pee.
@empathicalist Yeah the whole time I was reading this I was wondering why this was not attempted! It seems to me like just cutting it would be easy for a medical professional with a speculum, if scary for the person who it's inside. Unless I am missing something about physics it seems like a much much better idea than trying to pry off something suctioned firmly on!
@needsmoresalt That bothered me, I wouldn't say that she did become a mom, but that it seems like a strange way to refer to a stillbirth experience. I also had to reread the sentence multiple times to figure out what "one" was supposed to refer to. I first thought 'scandal,' then 'prick,' then 'hara kiri,' then finally realized it was supposed to refer to 'mom.') I also think 'hara kiri' is used in the wrong way here. While it is very painful (what I imagine the term is being used to invoke) most people think of it as being a method of suicide used to defend one's honor. While describing a painful experience and doubtless painful to write, the article wasn't 'literary suicide' (a commonly used phrase) because it didn't damage Levy's reputation as a writer. I may be the only one but the strange opening sentence distracted me from what the article is supposed to be about.
@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) Weirdly I had straight hair as a kid and don't anymore. I'm hoping it switches back when I get pregnant.
I am so amazed and delighted to read that SO MANY other people did this too. I did this, exactly this, all the time. And with stories! Sometimes about me and my friends as teenagers, in the future. I sort of assumed that when I was a teenager I would be blonde and have big boobs. Like, automatically. I guess the latter was technically contents unknown (In real life, I turned out pretty flat chested) but it must have been obvious that I had brown hair? I don't know.
On Books Banned at Guantanamo Bay: "Gulag Archipelago," "Uncle Tom's Cabin," Leftist Firestarter "Jack & the Beanstalk"
Sorry to nitpick but insensible means "unable to sense" like if you are unconscious, without nerve endings or otherwise unresponsive to touch. It doesn't mean "senseless."