On Maria Bello: "My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and evolving"
YES!!! I've always thought it was so weird that partnerships are really only considered "real" or valuable if they are sexual/romantic, or at least began that way. I live together with my best friend, and my relationship with her is much closer and important to me and my life than all of my previous and current romantic partners combined. But still, I feel like many people regard a close bestfriendship/platonic domestic partnership as a placeholder until the "real thing" comes along. Bullshit, I say!
Wow, this is spectacular. Thanks Jia!
This is great! I am starting to think about living abroad again for a little while. I love reading about how and why other people do it! I'd love to learn more about the nature of her job and what it specifically entails, it sounds fascinating.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
@OwlOfDerision I agree, it's getting ghost town-y on the FoT! It makes me sad! But even the Toast only has a few hundred comments. It wasn't that long ago that the FoT was breaking 1,000 on the regular! Where's everybody?
@Gulf of Finland Yes! I stopped dating in August and it was the best decision ever. Blissful, blissful calm and emotional stability await you!
@victorian rose Get it gurrrrrrl! Halloween is a magical time.
@PennyCentury I don't know! I don't think so? I decided not to follow up with him until an unspecified point in the future. I think with these things it's best to leave them in the Realm of Possibility. But, like, I know I should just find a new person to have sex with, but I just really don't have the time or energy or desire to actually date anyone and I don't see that changing until at least after the holidays have past. Bleh.
@Urwelt Ahhhh sex with new people is so terrifying for me- it's why I go so long without dating anyone between boyfriends. I can't deal with the prospect of it, it gives me so much anxiety! Good luck!
OMG I went out for Halloween and got drunk for the first time in AGES! I saw my most recent ex (he dumped me in July after a few months of casual dating, no big drama, haven't really seen him since), and he spent a whole hour chatting me up and grabbing my thigh under the table and making eyes at me. Luckily my friends were with me and once they saw what was happening they put a swift end to it by shuffling me out the door of the bar. Hallelujah. Bullet dodged!
Tell me your stories of Ex Sex! Was it okay? Did one of you want to get back together? Did it make the world explode? Do share!
HELP I need to throw together a last minute costume for a party tomorrow? Ideas anyone? I have a limited budget and the party will be full of hipsters, if that helps. My mind is just a vast space of blankness.