What she says about April 2014 - oy.
@Tragically Ludicrous Oh no, I like it too - it's that Paltrow thinks Europeans are all so highbrow and intellectual while the ESC is definitely not.
Re: "I have to go back to Europe" - wonder how she would feel about the Eurovision Song Contest.
I can't hate on her though. From a distance it's hilarious.
On Lionel Shriver on obesity and the surplus of attractive characters in fiction: "The solution is to get a grip and put human beauty in perspective"
@iceberg I was also not attractive and then became not unattractive until after college. My experience has been that people are assholes no matter what. When I was ugly people for the most part just ignored me as if I was a nonentity, but when I was cuter, either I (1) "belonged" to them in that they had certain expectations as to how I should act (be fashionable, outgoing, sexually available) and flipped out if I didn't meet those expectations and (2) was seen as a non-entity (too supposedly stupid or something else was wrong) or a threat (OMG, she's after my boyfriend!).
It's great that the parent's teaching the daughter to not be "nice," but then it can cross the line to being rude. Guess the balance here is to teach the child that one should be polite yet assertive - until there's a situation where it's ok (in fact, better) to be rude. But it's certainly difficult in that it's hard to explain to a young child about all the complexities involved.
There's this book called Trauma and Recovery - the focus of the book is about PSTD and trauma, but it implies/argues that domestic/family violence is a form of terrorism, but on a smaller scale. Yet the difference in how we approach the two are so drastically different in practically every aspect.
@Nutellaface Or any investment, for that matter. It would be kind for the LW to do so, but it's still the parent's responsibility.
Did the LW ask the parents to reimburse them for cleaning up that chair? Did the parents offer?
The kids may be terrible, but they're kids. Personally, I wouldn't invite the parents back again (with or without kids) because they clearly have no respect for the LW's property or cats. If the parents ask, say exactly why - that the last time they came, they let their kid harass the cats and make havoc in the house.
(The parents also sound like terrible people, even if they weren't parents.)
@Poubelle Certainly not saying that people don't marry for love, etc. However, I saw what the author was talking about in a lot of couples that got/are getting married recently (generally late 20s/early 30s). With those couples, at least one or both of them had a checklist of when they wanted to accomplish things, e.g. "26-go to grad school, 27 - find s/o, 29- graduate from grad school, get engaged, 30 - get married, 32 - have first child, 35 - become partner." People seemed to put a lot of pressure on themselves to get engaged at or before 30. I actually had someone ask what was wrong with me because I wasn't attached.
And to be fair to the author, many people do grant a certain status in someone's being a husband/wife or father/mother (more for the women than for the men). It fits into someone's comment on another post on how in certain places, one's considered an adult when they have kids vs. how one decides to have kids only when the person is an adult.
I don't see what the big deal is, assuming the parties (including the ex's S/O, if any) are ok with it. It's one thing if the ex was a terrible human being or that the relationship ended badly, but personally, I think there are many ways to have a relationship with someone.