I would also like to say that there is a difference between "shouldn't have to" and "shouldn't".
@Springtime for Voldemort I am glad you agree with the message. I disagree with your assessment that she was defending the article for most of the piece. I saw only 2 or 3 sentences to that effect.
You made your own empowering choice. I doubt seriously that what you endured could be called tolerating it. I completely understand your point of view. During my assault I felt the best thing to do was make sure I lived and he was caught. I had no opportunity to take control during the assault itself because I was asleep in my home when it began, however, I protected myself from the nightmare of seeing his face in my dreams by never looking at him, and I took control by feigning sympathy and engaging him in conversation. He left in tears, but not by my physicality. It was my "compassion" and his own guilt that made him cry. That is what worked for me with that man. It may not work for me again.
The thing about feeling empowered is that you are more able to keep thinking. That's what keeps you alive. The fact that you remember that you had choices shows that you were thinking. You are clearly a strong woman.
Also, I'm disturbed that someone has to research on line whether they've been raped or not. If you have been raped, you know it, no matter what Congress wants to tell you. Sex without your consent is rape. Period.
You people do realize that this was tongue-in-cheek and based on the idiotic principles that Congress was laying out as being the definition of rape, right?