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@sarabea Well, wine is made from grapes, which is a fruit, so maybe kills two birds with one stone? Why can't wine count as a fruit serving, like orange juice? Just my wishful thinking I guess.
@raised amongst catalogs Me too! Right now I usually look most like #3 and #10 on my more stylish days, but I also have some #2 inside on many of my good days, so I hope that relaxed fierceness will come out as I age.
@stonefruit Me too! On my more stylish days I tend to look like either 3 or 10 (though there's some of 2 inside that I hope will seep out as I age).
@RK Fire After resisting leggings and skinny jeans for ages, I've also cautiously gotten on board. I agree with what others have said about getting ones that aren't overly Spandex-y, and that they are best worn with tunics, longer sweaters, mini dresses, i.e. things that cover your bum. I pretty much always wear knee-high boots with them too, though maybe I'll branch out on the shoe front when the weather gets warmer. Given my status as a novice wearer I'm no expert, but so far the ones I like best are about $10 from Target, and are 95% cotton/5% Spandex. The cotton looks more pants-like, and of course is breathable. I got them about two months ago and they are doing spendidly so far, though honestly with the frequency at which I currently wear them I expect 1-2 years max out of them. I never put them in the dryer, which I think helps prevent pilling and generally keeps them in better shape.
I had gotten some fleece-lined ones about which I was really excited and enjoyed wearing about five times before they started pilling irreparably and generally getting crappy looking (oh well, they got me through Hurricane Sandy). I think the ones that are made from primarily stretchy fabric tend to show wear faster.
@terrific I was thinking of doing something similar: relinquishing non-social drinking for the month. That means when I go out with friends or on dates, I am allowed to drink, but no more glasses of wine while internet surfing on a Wednesday night at home, etc. I think this will be better for my budget, my waistline, and my productivity. I feel like I've just been generally lazy the last month or two in regard to everything from household chores to exercising to making plans with friends, so I'm hoping that cutting out boozing at home will make me more productive, instead of briefly contemplating my to-do list and then thinking, "Nah, I just kind of want to drink wine and read this magazine." Relatedly (is that a word?), the desire for an expertly made cocktail might motivate me to take the initiative to make plans with people -- something about which I need to be less passive.
On Places Where Single Women Are Encouraged to Seek "The One," and to Which I've Gone, Dutifully, to Befriend No One But Likeminded Women
This totally hits home. I was just complaining to my aunt the other day about how the advice about trying to meet people through activities, classes, hobbies, etc. like the author lists doesn't work for me because pretty much anything I actually enjoy and would want to do is girly (or things that people do as couples). Examples: yoga, art (galleries and classes), dance, wine tasting, things to do with reading and writing, fashion.
I suppose I could attend a sporting event or watch a game at a bar or join a pickup team or learn how to grill or fix cars or whatever it is that menfolk do in organized groups, but that feels disingenuous because I don't find any of those things the least bit intriguing (also, I'm a vegetarian and don't drive, which would be problematic for the latter two), and I wouldn't have any fun. Even if I managed to strike up a flirty conversation at some manly event, dude would probably think I was boring or stupid due to my general lack of interest and ability vis-a-vis the actual activity. If he didn't care that I was boring or stupid, I wouldn't want to date him because that would mean he was only interested in my looks and probably wouldn't respect me. I think this is the point where someone tells me I'll die alone if I keep being this difficult?
@thebestjasmine When I was in college looking at study abroad options, the guide for the Rome program said that they don't sell them in Italy and to bring them with you if you're a washcloth person, so I guess the Italians are anti-washcloth.
We always had them in our bathrooms growing up, but I admit I also don't use them and don't really understand the purpose of them either (I always just used them to wipe the bathroom counter when I splashed water on it). I do occasionally use a wet towel for a quick lip exfoliation, so I guess they could be good for that? I can't imagine why I would buy a whole separate item for a 15-second lip rub once a week or so during the driest months of winter though.
@Lady Humungus I someimes use it on my hands at night as I go to bed over lotion to seal in the moisture and wake up with soft hands. And yes, it lasts a while :)
Shea butter, like many oils and vaseline, is an occlusive agent, which means it seals in the moisture your skin already has and prevents it from losing moisture, but doesn't impart moisture from the actual substance or draw it in from the air around you, so that may be why your skin is still dry and flaky. Moisturizers with humectant ingredients, which include common ingredients like glycerin, urea, and lactic acid help draw moisture to your skin from the atmosphere, and/or from deeper skin layers. Basically, it's best to use a moisturizer with both so you can get the moisture and seal it in. Just check the ingredients labels, or if you want something really simple, try pure aloe vera (the clear watery kind) with a bit of light oil on top. I find putting on moisturizer and body lotion when my skin is still damp is also helpful. A lot of times occlusive agents like shea butter can be too heavy and make some people's skin break out, so I would go with something lighter to seal in the moisture on your face, or perhaps not at all if your skin isn't too dry and is acne-prone.
@BornSecular I'll do a vinegar rinse or mix a bit of baking soda in with my shampoo on occasion during the summer for some clarifying action if my hair starts getting greasy from accumulating sunscreen off my bask and shoulders, but I haven't tried the full-out baking soda/ACV method personally. However, I have read that it is not good for hair over the long term. This post (also above) explains it pretty succinctly: http://www.futurederm.com/2012/06/20/3-reasons-why-baking-soda-and-apple-cider-vinegar-destroy-your-hair-and-what-to-use-instead/
Basically, ACV can help with a few short term things like getting rid of some flakes/dandruff/yeast and sealing the hair cuticle to make color last longer and make hair shinier. However, over time, the baking soda/ACV routine messes with the ph of your hair and scalp and strips it of its natural oils, making it brittle and prone to breakage. The ACV can impart brassiness for some people as well. The article I linked above recommends some oils to rehab the damage (including jojoba and argan), and recommends some alternative natural shampoos.
@planforamiracle I use jojoba oil, usually just on the ends (I have fine, slightly wavy blonde hair, if that's helpful at all for context). I either put it on my dry hair before I do hot yoga and wash out after, or I add 2-3 drops to my regular conditioner and let it sit while I shave my legs before washing it out. I do it on an as-needed basis, which probably comes down to maybe once a weekish in the winter, and less frequently in the summer. It seems to make my hair softer, shinier, and less prone to breakage.
While an occasional baking soda/vinegar rinse can be good for clarifying, it's actually not very good for hair to use over the long term. This article explains it better than I can: http://www.futurederm.com/2012/06/20/3-reasons-why-baking-soda-and-apple-cider-vinegar-destroy-your-hair-and-what-to-use-instead/
I use the jojoba oil on my skin as well -- on hands before going to bed at night, on dry cuticles, and sometimes a few drops mixed into my regular lotion if I want a bit of extra moisture. I get it at Whole Foods for about $9/bottle (NYC price). It's Hobacare one, which is the cheapest brand they have, and is pure jojoba oil, so no different than the more expensive ones.
Hope that's helpful!