@catfoodandhairnets I think it depends hugely on group dynamics. Most of the people in my circle of friends have been friends for over 10 years. We have history and inside jokes and all sorts of stuff that comes into play when we're together. When someone new comes in, everything gets jostled a bit, and the more I try to limit the number of stories from way back when, the more it's all I can think about. There are certainly times and activities for bringing in extra people and/or SOs, but sometimes, I just want to be with my old friends and feel 100% relaxed and accepted and able to be me and say whatever and know that the people around me are going to go with it. When someone's new BF or GF comes in, suddenly I'm trying to be inclusive and trying to gauge whether or not they think my sarcasm is amusing or snobby, etc.
If I change my name to Katy or Katie or Catey or some variation thereof, can I be best friends with these totally awesome ladies????
@e-liz This is completely off-topic, but how did you get into rowing? I took a beginners class this summer and really wanted to love it more than I actually did. Some part of me wants to believe I could love it if I was actually on a team and not in a class full of people who weren't really focused.
On Maria Bello: "My feelings about attachment and partnership have always been that they are fluid and evolving"
@lasso tabasco Yes yes YES! This is the story of my life! I find it so hard to talk about my feelings for my closest friend without using words our society reserves for romantic partners, and then everything sounds weird. I love her deeply. I don't believe in soulmates in terms of we were meant to find one another or anything, but there's a depth to our connection that I can't describe any other way. Just because we're not fucking does not mean our friendship is any less intense/important/worth fight for than a marriage.
@noodge Wait, this isn't ironic? I just assumed this was all a joke.
@MrsTeacherFace I'm so scared of this too, from the other side. My sister and I are freakishly close (though there are quite a few years between us) and she's having a baby in a few months. I'm so so scared of losing our special bond when there's suddenly this tiny human she's responsible for keeping alive.
@SarahHyphen I have this fear toooooooooo!
@lucy snowe I still have 2 baby teeth. They're actually on either side of my 2 front teeth, which are pretty big, and they make the baby teeth look smaller and the baby teeth make them look bigger. I'm crazy self-conscious about it.
100% living with/being responsible for any other living thing, including but not limited to: other humans, animals, plants
@yeah-elle And then, when you have that extra pumpkin that you need to use up because it doesn't keep for very long, make these AMAZING Fannie Farmer pumpkin muffins. My apologies, I don't know how to do fancy links