Great interview! I once had a coworker who was the mother of (college-aged) triplets. When she first told me her three kids were triplets and I said the typical, "oh, wow," she also said, "And you wouldn't believe the questions I got when we first had them! Some people have even asked me if I did in vitro." I was so glad she said this--I think it's a great tactic. I can't imagine that I would have asked her that question myself, but it made me instantly aware to never ask that question of her or anyone else--and without her having to reveal personal details about her pregnancy one way or the other.
LW4: I think you should call your doctor's office and ask them this question. The answer may depend on what kind of Retin-A you were prescribed (the gel or the cream, and I think there may be different strengths available, too?) and what condition your skin is in. Retin-A can be really harsh on your skin.
@Nicole Cliffe Can't wait!
@area@twitter Ah, then I look forward to Nicole's review of Bad Boys 2.
Is there any cultural significance to this movie to merit a commentary on The Hairpin about how dumb/bad it is, well over a year after it came out in theatres?
@themegnapkin It's also relevant which city this guy is working in. If it's NYC, then 15 hours everyday might be accurate and everything else you said. If it's a smaller big city, this LW needs to also talk to her fiance about working more efficiently than he is now. My husband is a lawyer at a big firm in a big city (smaller than New York) and, yes, he works 10-12 hours on a normal Monday-Friday (if he's on a super busy case it could be 15+ hours a day plus long weekend hours, but with an endpoint in sight). I think 15 hours everyday either means he's at the worst of the worst soul-crushing NYC firms, he's on a case that is about to go to trial, or he is working really inefficiently. LW needs to talk to her fiance to understand what his yearly billable hours requirement is (it sounds like he is on track to bill 4,500+ hours, which is ridiculous) and to understand if there is an endpoint (is it a particular case or partner that is the problem? does he want to do this for the long haul?), or if there's something he could do differently. Partners and associates at big firms in big cities work long hours, but they also take time off for major life events by setting limits. Their spouses/partners deal with it by understanding how much of it is unavoidable and how much they can refuse to accept.
@reebs14 That's awesome. Though I am usually a cynic, I have a severe soft-spot for late 80s/early 90s TV show theme songs. They're surprisingly very inspirational (and easy for all voices to sing to)! My favorite is the theme to Perfect Strangers. I have never seen any at a karaoke place, though!
@saythatscool Ooops, that was where I was supposed to insert a placenta/sex/birth pun, wasn't it? My bad. How about this: More like January Bones! Is that better?
Really? Would you ever post something about how we need to know about the children [fill in the blank with a big male star's name] has secretly fathered? I know this is meant as a funny take on that (oh yuck!) placenta article, but can we take a step back and think about why we are curious about her baby daddy? Do we want to demonize her for possibly having a baby by a married man? Do we want to judge her for going the artificial insemination route for lack of a man? Why should we possibly know who her baby daddy is?
Also, I love that the Hairpin is the sort of site where I can pose this question.
@teffodee I agree! I think "playing house" as a mentality also has more to do with personality than age. And another personality issue is that some people are just obnoxious about judging you for not following their lifestyle choices. Dare I say there are plenty of people with the attitude of "weddings and marriage are lame!" who just as insufferably project this view on their friends as people who are completely insufferable about their long-term SO or spouse. Assholes come in all shapes and colors and marital statuses!
I got married at 26, but I'm just not somebody who would ever approach it as "playing house" and I would never think that all people should be following my lead. I would be really pissed if any friends were holding their breath for me to divorce.