I loved reading this honest account and I love reading the comments that follow. I'll share my own: having a baby transformed me. Become a mother changed me. I became this wild creature who would do anything to protect my child. This wildness is hidden but it is in my heart.
Love this so much! Can't wait to read the book. How telling is it that as soon as Wentworth's letter was mentioned, I blurted, "You pierce my soul!"
So well written and powerful, and I just want to share my sense of compassion: I'm so sorry you had to and in some ways still have to go through this. Not fair at all...
@Miss Maszkerádi Right? "One never ceases to be amazed at the sheer...!" (Trying to make up a quote but failing.) Oh, Violet, so, so awesome...
@Joey And oh, just one more thing: I remember a Miss Manners column that dealt with intrusive questions. Her suggestion was to look calmly at the person. Then ask, curiously, a bit coldly, "Why on EARTH would you ask me that?" Then the person starts explaining or stammering but you are already on your way AWAY from that person.
@iceberg : What a good question. And first: wow, I loved this tale, and I'm so, so happy for you and your family! Ok, back to your question: here's a roundabout look at it: my husband is 1/4 Mexican and I assumed my ancestry was 100% Northern European, mostly Celtic, based on what I'd heard. When I got some genetic testing for celiac, turns out I have Southern European ancestry. So, this has nothing to do with your issue, right? But maybe kind of? "Our family's ancestry is from all over! Northern Europe, Southern Europe..." Si? Because we have a daughter who is gorgeous! And we have a grandmother in the family who is a step grandmother but we never refer to her as such, she is just Grandma, and she is Italian! And another close relative who is a step but not seen as such and his ancestry is from yet another corner of the globe... So, there's that whole "our family hails from ..." that feels accurate and true, without delving into more private familial relationship issues.
@katiemcgillicuddy "My friend is here! My friend is here!" I still get tears, chills remembering that part in the book. So moving, just--so much.
@no way I remember a Doc Martin episode about that! The disease, not the... you know what I'm saying.