On Anger Problems and The Trivia Superteam

Sometimes it is exhausting and unpleasant to spend time with people who are always (humorously!) complaining, expressing their negative opinion about things that *at this very moment* other people are enjoying, insisting that they are correct and someone else is wrong. I understand that whole of this author's personality and experience is not encapsulated in this piece but what I find here is a definite personal agenda and lack of concern or insight into what other people might be feeling or thinking. If you want to be heard, listening to other people first is a really good way to start.

Posted on July 31, 2014 at 1:13 pm 5

On Why I Have To Be So "Rude"

"Successful music producers" don't have roommates.

Posted on July 27, 2014 at 8:27 pm 2

On The Best Time a Diva Cup Suctioned Itself to My Cervix

The first time I inserted the diva cup, it got weirdly turned around and I couldn't get it out. I was desperate, so I asked my husband to help ... I was mortified but I figured well, he's seen me give birth, so ...

He was able to fish it out and I was definitely apprehensive but determined to make this work, so I tried it again next month and now we're all good. I don't do the 360 degree turn (I still don't quite understand how that's possible to do) but it's possible to get the right suction without it. I've also learned that I definitely need to use my kegels to help push the cup down so that I can grip it enough to remove.

My sincere, wholehearted sympathies .... having trouble removing something from your vagina induces a very specific sort of panic.

Posted on January 11, 2014 at 6:09 pm 0

On Sweet Dee

@Azaz the Unabridged Just do it! Call and make the appointment! Better to know what it is (probably nothing!) than worry about it. And then go put some sunscreen on. :)

Posted on January 3, 2014 at 1:57 pm 1

On The Best Time I Lost a Tampon and Found My Cervix

If I went on an exploratory "meet my cervix" expedition, you would know I found it when I let out an earsplitting howl of pain. As a matter of fact, I can feel it curling up defensively right now, just thinking about it. My point is, be careful! Some cervixes really don't like being touched.

Posted on November 19, 2013 at 1:27 pm 1

On Sex and the Dystopia

@Speaking of cake, I have cake My favorite moment was also a Charlotte moment ... when she declares that she's been dating since she was sixteen, she's tired, where IS HE?

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 5:46 pm 3

On Sex and the Dystopia

I loved SATC. I felt like it was the first representation I saw (or noticed, might be more accurate) that a woman could just be single on her own terms - it wasn't just a state of limbo until some guy proposed to you. I know that sounds horribly naive and all kinds of other things, but I just remember at the time feeling this incredible pressure to be coupled up, to be on a path to marriage and SATC was the first thing that made me sit up and say, "Oh hey! I could be doing other things with my time." And as @franceschances mentions, I also felt like the show didn't really give a shit what dudes thought ... the women, the conversations, the clothes. I'll always have a soft spot for the show.

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 5:44 pm 7

On Other People's Kids, Homes

Posted on May 8, 2013 at 1:28 am 0

On Close-Reading a Controversial List, Take 2

@Derevkova Testify. Stannis is the rightful king! And hottest dude.

Posted on May 2, 2013 at 4:43 pm 1

On Bake-at-Home Babies: Embryo Adoption and Me

@iceberg My brother and I are adopted - we're Korean, our parents are white. I remember getting A LOT of questions growing up (and even now) about our family. Many times these questions were (are) intrusive, overly personal, rude, awkward ... you name it. Unless the person seems like they're just aching to unload some sort of bullshit racist screed, I just figure it's coming from a place of genuine, harmless curiosity and answer as forthrightly as possible. Perhaps they're curious about adoption themselves. A lot of times, when questions have come from older folks, they had kids or friends who were embarking upon an international adoption and were worried about what it would be like. If sharing some personal information about my family and how adoption was awesome for us can help some other people be more comfortable with it or even just more aware of the different ways families are created, then I don't mind a few awkward encounters. Obviously, the Bergy Bits have a much more complicated (and private!) backstory, but you know, for people who don't read The Hairpin (horrors!) and have never heard of embryo adoption ... a condensed version of your story might be really helpful/enlightening! Anyway, congratulations and thanks for such an amazing story.

Posted on May 2, 2013 at 3:56 pm 8