@karenb This is why I'm swearing off boxed wine.
WAIT. Jessica was supposed to be the antagonist of the series? I do not think I read them that way.
I just thought they represented the two different types of womanhood available. Like, you could be pretty and popular, or you could be smart and bookish. And as a twin, it was my job to constantly be reassessing which one of us was the Jessica and which was the Elizabeth.
A Queer Chick's advice to is amazing and wonderful as always, but I would also add to LW1 that sometimes there really is an unexplainable gap between what you actually are into and what you fantasize about. And that's ok and not weird and doesn't mean you're closeted! (I mean, you MIGHT be, and that's cool, too). I say this as a certified lesbian who sometimes fantasizes about men, but finds sleeping with them pretty damn unappealing.
Also, I think as you get more sexual experience, your fantasy life/real sex life start to sync up a bit-- when you're just starting to explore your sexuality you don't have many created memories to extrapolate from, and you don't actually have real-time feedback about what makes you feel good with another person, so you sometimes default to generalized erotic situations. That is my amateur assessment based on my own experience, anyway.
The CHVRCHES album is so so good!!
@Edith Zimmerman God, I have so much to learn from Katy Perry.
What do you think she was using to get her underarms so cleanly shaven while living in the jungle?
Also, it's a testament to just how unsubtle the Spice Girls were that I could tell which Spice Girl would go with which persona without watching the video.
Between this is the piece on the Vertical Horizon show, I'm beginning to think Jia should start her own music/feminism website that I would read every single day. You are killing it lately, Jia.
Despite the shockingly low 6/10 for MMMbop, that shit is catchy.
#23 is wrong! That's definitely from Harvey.
#9 sounds like booze
@sophia_h I'm so glad there so many people have had positive experiences-- and I know a few people who have too! But I want to echo what AMD said. I got engaged right before I graduated college, and the first year out of college, we both changed and evolved so much in terms of very basic things-- when we wanted to have kids, where we would be happy living, etc. By the time we broke the engagement off it seemed so obviously like the wrong relationship, but when I was a senior in college I couldn't imagine not being perfect for each other.