@redheaded&crazy There was an article on A Practical Wedding that might have addressed that! I'm just going to pull the relevant quote here:
"Things that might seem outdated for popular feminism may actually be points of pride for women who have historically been denied access to a certain mode of femininity. If you are a member of a group of women that has been constantly caricatured as mammies and welfare queens, sexually pathologized, and whose inequity has been attributed to broken, abnormal, and matriarchal family structures, then bearing the title of Mrs. and taking your husband’s last name can actually be displays of resistance. If you have grown up seeing constant media reports on the fatherlessness of Black children and the unmarriageability of Black women, then having your father walk you down the aisle and flashing your ring can both be points of pride."
@angelinha Same here. I'm kinda bewildered as to how so many people are finding this offensive.
Hairpin comments are getting absurd. I thought this was really funny.
I'm with you. Seems a bit literal-minded and humorless around here today. I feel sorry for the new editor; it's almost as if some people are looking for reasons to get pissy.
I'd like to lovingly submit that perhaps with the introduction of new management and in the aftermath of the geek misogyny post shitshow, everyone might have their hackles up a bit around here. Maybe it's just me, but the all this comment hate seems pretty out of proportion to the actual content of this post.
I tried to raise my ire after the daddy line, but I have trouble getting mad at bartenders. I owe them - as a people - so much, karmically; they've put up with entirely too much of my nonsense over the years. But I guess with that line we're one chunk o' nonsense closer to even, bartenders. (Yes, I'm treating them as one entity.)
@themmases I also liked it! I felt like this was done in a sort of affectionate way, and a gently-teasing way, rather than a "YOU WOMEN ARE CRAZY" way.
Wow, the 'Pin seems to be divided on this one! I thought it was funny and not egregiously mean.
Remember that scene at the beginning of "Date Night" when Tina Fey and Steve Carrell guess that a young couple at the restaurant is on a first date, and invent weird dialogue for them? I'm not clever enough for that, but I do love eavesdropping on obvious first dates in bars or restaurants. Always a fun time.
I wasn't planning to comment because, well: I read, I nodded, I chuckled, I moved on, but so many people seem so offended that I feel compelled to put my thumb on the other side of the scale. I thought the article was equal parts astute and satirical (the "use your hand as a barrier the way you would with the sun" advice being a pretty solid indicator for the latter), even after rereading to see if I had missed something I could get up in arms about (my favorite internet activity).
I don't know, I kind of liked the "like he's your new dad" comment. I often trip over that stuff and it's helpful to remember how ridiculous I'm being. Duh, of course I can pay for my own! What's the big deal? I don't really find the reality check that mean.