@rfpgh Mind-boggling and disoienting are perfect descriptions for how I feel reading this. I also can't believe that these people are SO unashamed of their behavior that they agree to be interviewed and photographed for an article. Like, every single one of these people would do the same thing all over again, they have no remorse for their actions or have realized in hindsight how extremely messed up it all was/is.
I ran into Gisele in the Boston Common once. This was a while ago, when she was still dating Leonardo DiCaprio, and the two of them were just strolling through like it wasn't anything. The best part was, we didn't even notice him, we double looked her, because she was so amazingly breathtakingly beautiful. I don't always think she photographs super well, but she was absolutely stop you in your tracks stunning in real life. We actually didn't know who she was at first, she was in super minimal makeup, a ponytail, and ratty jeans, plus her dog was walking beside her off a leash. Then we saw him, and it clicked. He had this "oh crap, they recognize me" look in his eyes, but then the dog came running over to us and she followed and chatted with us about the weather and the protesters that were a little ways down the path and she was just so absolutely charming that we totally ignored him.
Even now when the Boston press trashes her about some stupid Tom Brady related thing, I still audibly sigh thinking about what a total crush I walked away from that encounter with.
@starbitrary Up until maybe the age of 10 (12?) everytime we drove by the church at night and saw a light on in the rectory I pictured the priest sitting on the couch with a box of communion wafers and a goblet of wine, watching some tv. I casually mentioned it one time and everyone in the car laughed so hard I quickly realized how ridiculous that was. I still like that imagery though!
@Decca I don't think you need to feel bad about expecting a level of reciprocity, because it's not like you're looking for an exact one-to-one exchange, more a "I'm doing this nice thing for you because you're my friend and maybe it would be lovely if you did a nice thing for me as well someday". So even if you sprang for a fancy coffee one week, if the next week he made you a cup of his coffee at home without you asking it's the thought that counts.
That being said, I used to have a roommate who once, when we ordered pizza, offered to go pick it up. He then took $10 from me and $10 from our other roommate and brought the pizza back. Except the pizza wasn't $20, so because we didn't ask for the change, he not only ate the pizza for free but actually got paid for it! The first time it happened the two of us were so flabbergasted by the gall of it that we didn't say anything except to each other. The second time it happened we said something and he got all flustered and gave us each $1 back. Needless to say, there wasn't a third time.
@Blushingflwr This was my thought as well! I think that instead of wondering how their extended family/friends will react, they should discuss it with the children. If the children are uncomfortable, no go, but if they view it as a (symbolic) merging of the families, then go for it. My parents remained very amicable throughout their divorce and I honestly don't think this is something that would have squicked my siblings or me out if it had come up.
@Anna Jayne@twitter Years ago a coworker told me that I looked like "Lindsay Lohan..before". Before what? Before she got skinny. I didn't know how to respond and to this day he calls me Lindsay whenever I see him.
Awwww, my sister lives in Shanghai and this made me really miss her! She loves it there and every day I wish I finally had the crazy amount of money needed to go visit her. Alas, this is taking forever because everyone I've ever met has decided to get married.
This has warmed the cockles of my heart
My dad got laid off today, which is a big bummer, but it feels like an even bigger bummer because we work for the same company. For the past 8 years we've met each morning to get coffee and chat for a few minutes and I've totally not appreciated how completely awesome that is. My main thing is that I just feel so bad for him (which I know probably totally pisses him off because he's not a pity party type of guy). He was with the company for 30 years! Watching him walk around and tell everyone that he was laid off broke my heart, probably more than if it had been me that was laid off instead.