I make a different yule log every year, but this is the one I'm making this year!
"A lot of women, for reasons I don't really understand, regard having a clean house as a moral issue rather than as a practical tradeoff of invested time to subsequent benefit."
HahahahahahahHAHAHA oh Dude, you have no fucking idea what you just said there.
Ugh, OK LW1, I was in this exact situation for 6 years (up to and including the ADD, possibly, maybe). And I don't really have any good advice to give, because I tried all the things you tried, and also some of the things A Dude suggested, and it just doesn't work.
And part of it, I have to say, has to do with how men are socialized. Like, when I was 12 or so I was SHOWN HOW TO CLEAN THE TOILET PROPERLY and all this other housewiffery bullshit. Were my brothers? No, no they were not. I also had a single father, and he did not know how to do ANYTHING house cleaning/cooking wise after my mother died. He did not know about separating colours from whites (even I didn't. and he wrecked many of my clothes by putting something red in there). He got better though, and maybe the fact that he actually did chores contributes to my expectation that men can deal with their own fucking mess, I dunno.
And I also TOTALLY DISAGREE that women think it's a moral thing for having a clean house, because for me, it was ENTIRELY PRACTICAL AND ABOUT RESPECT. My ex and I were both in school, and him not doing his own dishes was like him saying "My time is more valuable than your time," PLUS our kitchen was so small, and he used SO MANY DISHES (he was a fucking dish monster. He could go through like 6 plates and cups in a night, it was RIDICULOUS) that I couldn't use the kitchen to cook, and there also weren't any dishes left so I HAD to wash them. It still makes me livid just thinking about it. And I just got to the point where I couldn't do anymore, and pretty much wound up hating him (well this combined with other reasons, like me also being the one paying for everything).Oh, also: DISGUSTING MOULDY MILK CUPS DAILY. Other practical reason.
So now he is with a girl like 4 years younger than him, who doesn't seem to have any career aspirations that I am aware of, and who I am 80% sure based on what I've heard from his family takes care of all his shit, because he doesn't know how to take care of himself. The end.
Ugh, gender essentialism.
By charlesbois on TL4EVA
thoughts: the littlest flower girl looks like taylor swift; is that Edith, if so wow is she gorgeous; ugh Jane looks regal like a queen in every photo - perfect hair and incredible flowers.
@Ophelia His editor told him to, basically. Probably because they knew what would happen and it would be link bait.
By kickupdust on Sympathy for Liz
huh! so many people seem to believe in psychics!
I'm going to admit something here: for a long, looooong time, I thought his name was Elrond Hubbard.
I'm getting a retired racing greyhound!!! He was supposed to arrive today, but his happy tail has flared up, so he's at the vet, and they are considering surgery. I'm still waiting to hear from the rescue group, and I'm kind of anxious planning his arrival along with my uncertain work schedule.
I'm really excited though. I've been waiting to adopt a greyhound for the past 2 years!