On Beauty Q&A: Shells, Bra Purses, and The Next New 'Do

Hello, you lucky duck going to Europe this summer! I totally agree about wearing sandals. They're an easy solution to the problem of daytime-nighttime vacation shoes which also don't take up a lot of space in the suitcase. Instead of, like, trail running shoes and a pair of pumps. One pair here:
Ancient Greek Sandals, the Myrtis

I have a pair of Borns with more (but not too much!) arch support that whose strap I've replaced several times, but I don't see non-clunky ones out there. The closest are those Keens someone else recommended.
And not to step all over what Jane Marie said, but the ONLY place I've had my passport stolen was out of a hotel safe. (in Madagascar. Long story. I think the hotel staff were in on it.) But I think keeping the passport in the cross-body bag or camera bag that rests close to you is the answer.

Posted on January 23, 2013 at 3:35 pm 0

On The Wedding Photographer

"Also, The Wedding Photographer could be the title of a potentially profitable romantic comedy (like the Singer and the Planner)..."

Wasn't there a terrible Jennifer Aniston romantic comedy where she ends up with a wedding videographer? Googling reveals it's Picture Perfect. Jay Mohr played the guy, I think. There were some shenanigans where they pretended to be together for some reason and then, of course, fell for each other. I say terrible but maybe it was profitable, too. Not mutually exclusive, as we know.

Posted on December 4, 2012 at 2:02 pm 0

On Ideas for a Solo Traveler

@MilesofMountains I would go, if I were you. Partly because it's more fun to travel together than for one of you to stay at home alone, and also partly because it's probably worth seeing. I'm not from Texas, but I was in Dallas for a wedding once. A few things I did while there:
If you're at all into architecture or design, there are some buildings worth seeing in the Dallas-Fort Worth area. Nasher Sculpture Center (Dallas, Renzo Piano), Kimball Art Museum (Fort Worth, Louis Kahn), Fort Worth Modern (Fort Worth, Tado Andao). The Detroit Museum of Art is right across the street from the Nasher and it's pretty nice.
The Botanical Gardens are lovely, though I don't know what they look like in February.
And the Old Red Museum.

Also, the Lonesome Dove restaurant in Fort Worth has out-of-this-world steaks, if you're omnivorous. You can see the cattle run in Fort Worth and feel pretty guilty because of how beautiful and gentle they are.

Posted on November 13, 2012 at 1:00 am 0

On Jim Behrle Wants to Know

@blueblazes @Ophelia I am finding these intentional seductions of Republicans fascinating. Mine was completely accidental, like, whoops, you were a Republican? Isn't my face red!

Posted on November 6, 2012 at 7:19 pm 2

On Jim Behrle Wants to Know

@Ophelia It was Katrina! So not a hurricane actually in DC, but one that affected the unfolding of events.

I was in DC for Isabel, too. Most vivid memory: day drinking when offices closed, running around 18th St with "Rock you like a hurricane" blasting from some bar's speakers, prob. Millie & Al's.

Posted on November 6, 2012 at 4:32 pm 1

On Jim Behrle Wants to Know

@Ophelia I drafted a "the best time I hooked up with a Republican" story from my DC days JUST LAST NIGHT. It involved politics, obvs, and hurricanes, so it seemed timely. I haven't submitted it yet, tho'.

Posted on November 6, 2012 at 3:58 pm 1

On Debt-Sharing and Mismatched Ambition

@carolita I think this would all make a fascinating discussion on the Billfold.

Posted on August 17, 2012 at 3:11 pm 5

On Debt-Sharing and Mismatched Ambition

@Jade Indeed. And if they use the same stock photo for the column, does that mean it is the same one of the set of rotating married dudes? Because this writing is stylistically similar to "Baggage, 'Bed Death,' and Suspected Infidelity Triangles."

Posted on August 17, 2012 at 3:09 pm 1

On Beauty Q&A: The Most Beautiful Bright Lipstick in the Land

Lady #2!
I have several things to add to Jane's suggestions. Properly fitted bra, that should be first. Maybe get a larger size which does not tug at the bustline. But bear in mind that if you size up, not only will the shirt be a tent at the waist and hips, the shirt may also be too long, where the narrowest part falls at a point further and further down on your torso and does the bunching in the back and more gaping in the boob thing and will make you sad.

It is also far more difficult to tailor a shirt for torso length than for horizontal measurements, trust me. So it might be worthwhile looking at the petite section (I know). Try looking for petites in a place like Banana Republic which doesn't translate "petite" into "dowdier" and has the same line replicated on a shorter frame.

OR maybe your issue stems from a shirt which is too short on your long frame in the first place. In which case, go long!

Avoid this jargon: "boy-cut shirts," "your boyfriend's shirt," "straight cut," you get the drift. There are designers out there who are all knocking off Helmut Lang with clothes which can only be worn by flat chested people, just like bandeau bikinis or tuxedo jackets without blouses. So let them have those things! We have sweetheart necklines, fit-and-flare silhouettes, and the ability to rock out in a bustier if the costume party demands it.

In the meantime, for the shirts you already have, double stick fashion tape! You can find it online, at your sewing store, or even at Target. Just a small piece a little shorter than the distance between two buttons, stuck between both plackets, and voila, no gap. The more permanent solution for those blouses is a hidden small snap.

As far as which stores to go to, J. Crew is terrible in this area, terrible. Madewell also kind of not good. Here are some blouse makers with online stores which fit more closely to bra size (which you will know from having consulted with a professional).
Moderate: http://www.bravissimo.com/pepperberry/products/tops/shirts-and-blouses/#/1?show=16&sort=1
(UK sizing, check the chart)
Spendy: http://www.carissarose.com/
Super spendy, Oprah approved: http://www.the-shirt.com/index.php/shop.html

Now a final piece of advice, which is really just me channeling my mother and making me hate myself a little bit: sit up straight. The gap is more pronounced when you slouch, swear it. Protect your spine, project power, and have a better looking fit. Sit up straight. Good luck!

Posted on July 17, 2012 at 1:49 am 0

On Shades of Other Things

@olivebee Me too! And when I reread Mansfield Park and found that Jane Austen had used it, I was all agape.

"'With such warm feelings and lively spirits it must be difficult to do justice to her affection for Mrs. Crawford, without throwing a shade on the Admiral.'"

Posted on July 12, 2012 at 3:34 pm 2