"Now my chest can do what my hands used to do, which is a huge benefit. It frees up my hands to do whatever they want to do."
@jeremaya Just incredible.
@TheMnemosyne Is this really a "nuanced" "conversation" though? WOC are responding to repeated problems and issues in Big White Feminism, all of which have been outlined time and again on blogs that aren't in that club. At this point, it seems less than an attempt to debate, but rather a series of lessons via sock-in-the-gut truths. I don't think Mikki Kendall or any of the other women using the hashtag to such great effect really wanted to open another thoughtful, reasoned discourse on intersectionality, or create "one more point of entry to ongoing necessary feminist discussion" or whatever the hell Jill F. said; I think, if we're honest, we know how those discussions usually turn out, whether they're had in 140 characters bits or not.
@supernintendochalmers @OhMarie Nailed it! Can we three start the Alliance of Awesome Animation Avatars? Because mine is def. in good company here.
Shocked and amused that article that would start the whole Generation Kill book/miniseries ball (a shining sphere of pure gold, btw) in motion had Clay Aiken on it. Rolling Stone, what is your deal?
@theotherginger Oh man. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't tried, but though it's not particularly traumatic for me at this point to revisit it, I also don't really have the words most of the time, and I get riotously angry thinking about the counter-narrative that happens to every woman who talks about rape. Thank you and @blue skies, though, for that. If I ever do get the story out in writing, I'll be sure to shop it here at the `Pin or link it in a Friday thread.
When women who come forward to talk about being raped are treated like lying whores with nefarious agendas, and women who have "funny" sex stories that center around their humiliation and lack of control like cultural heroes who are just expressing the hook-up culture zeitgeist (I'd be looking at you, Lena Dunham, but I promised myself I'd quit), how the fuck can anyone be surprised that there are so many women who spin it one way, or worse, don't see a meaningful distinction?
I know I didn't. My rape was just a "funny" party story too, for years, until I had better tools to deal. I lose my shit when experiences like that, which aren't new or modern or just hook up related, are used as proof that women are too dumb to meaningfully consent to sex, when these trend piece authors have their causal link between rape culture and their belittling handwringing exactly backwards.
ETA: Man, Hairpin is hitting all my buttons today, in the best way.
@causedbycomma "I'm sorry...I'm just having a lot of complex emotions right now...do you read the Hairpin?...I have a printout!" Love it, because even if it's peppered with sniffs and sobs, getting that sentence out is basically guaranteed to make you stop feeling like you were. Mostly because then you'd be embarrassed/elated. No room for both.
@RachelTheC Hot and sour soup, followed by a creamy, strong cocktail and an antacid, then sleeping somewhere where it's cool and bright until you wake up and it's dark. (<3)
I didn't even get past the first one. That is basically the only feeling I ever feel, these days, and it's a really hard one to explain when bosses or bartenders or hairstylists want to know why you're crying.
@beecaveroad Oh man, I found New Orleans so easy to make friends in! Yes, I had the benefit of college, but I found people very open and friendly. You're going out, right? For drinks and shows and sandwiches? Talk to the people in line at the snowball shop! It will be great!