I also found what Will said about needing permission to hit on someone really interesting. I think one of the main reasons my first boyfriend and I started dating (I was 21) was that he didn't overtly hit on me, though I could tell he liked me, and I got to decide if I wanted to make the first move. (He also can't flirt to save his life!)
But I think some girls, me included, look for a less aggressive guy. Considering the culture we're in, and the kinds of masculinities that are promoted, it makes sense that someone would want a guy who comes across as less threatening. I like to call them girl-friendly. Getting hit on is kind of a turn-off for me, unless it's done respectfully.
I really liked this piece. I lost my virginity when I was 20, which at the time felt like way too long to wait even though it really isn't. I'm glad it happened relatively late because I knew my body more, what I wanted, and felt more confident. I did go to all-girls high school, though, and that definitely contributed to some awkwardness about dealing with guys in college. But I also just never found one I was interested in until a couple years in!
My philosophy is they are ALWAYS flirting. That way you can be flirty back, and not feel bad about it!
(Also, because it's true.)
@FulanaDeTallcan Woooooowwww. All I can say.
I went to all-girls school. So does that mean my relating to boys synapses were pruned?? That would explain a whole lot!