Just wanted to comment how much I enjoyed this--it was so beautifully written and I learned something new.
Thank you both so much--I am totally in the middle of that mild angst and it's hard to keep perspective about staying in the moment and enjoying this weird time with the promise that things will probably shake out okay. I really appreciate the wisdom, thank you.
I am a loyal lurker and infrequent commenter on these open threads, but I'm wondering if anybody in this community has advice for recent grads that they wish they had at this stage? Or any commiseration? I'm getting so sad during the back-to-school time, I don't have a job in my field yet and am living with my mom in a town where I know literally no one my age. I loved school and had great friends (who all went to grad school so no commiseration there), and feel so lost and stuck in the "real world". I'm so lucky that I have good nannying jobs here and get along well with my mom, and she allows me to live at home, but I have no idea how to make myself feel better during this limbo period where I keep applying and applying and applying for jobs and never getting responses. I also kind of feel like school was the best time of my life and it's all downhill from here? How do I move on?
AGH anyway any sad postgrads or people with wise advice out there?
@silverscreen I am finishing up my undergrad thesis (so a totally different ball game, so ymmv!) but I am also struggling, I just made a list of everything I had to do before the due date in less than 3 weeks and am freaking out. The writing was relatively easy but the editing is horrifying, and my actual schoolwork and graduation feelings just feels like it's getting in the way. Something that helped me when I was a productive thesis student was smiley face stickers and setting daily goals for myself and then leaving the library....so I needed to write 7 pages and then I could go home and do whatever I wanted. Sometimes I did it quickly and sometimes it took all day and then some.Starting early in the morning, even though I'm definitely not a morning person, helped the weird depression that I always feel when the sun sets and I'm still not done (better now that it's not winter!) Also, pomodoro timers and distraction blockers were great for me, since getting distracted is a huge issue for me. Also, "the best thesis is a done thesis"!
Sorry this turned into a total rant. Good luck to you!!!!! And I love hearing the tips and tricks that people have, helpful even for this undergrad :-)
@coolallison Thank you!
I'm signed up for their email updates, I'm a fan on facebook, etc! Hope it happens soon!
@CRINDY Thanks so much to you all!!!!!! I have also never been pregnant, am in my early 20s, and am in a long-term monogamous relationship. My first Mirena expelled after 2 months and the second after 3 months, but it was caused by my own crazy uterus and is apparently not a normal thing, so I'm still on team IUD for people who have less high maintenance ladyparts. I was very committed to my IUD (hence having one inserted twice in three months) and still mourn the fact that it didn't work out for me.
I'm excited about the implanon! I'm like 99 percent sure it's 100 percent covered, so I can always get it taken out if I totally hate it. The only things that would be serious dealbreakers would be mood issues, drastically lowered sex drive, or lots of weight gain, but I'm not prone to them generally so I'm thinking I'll be okay. I'm hoping to not spot a ton though as I have super-low iron levels already (with the Mirena I bled CONSTANTLY and had constant extreme cramping pain, it was awful), but it's good to hear that using another method of estrogen-based BC might work to stop spotting or be an option in that case.
Whenever I write out all my years of BC issues I just pray that they come out with that male birth control injection thing soon.....
Hi Hairpin! Frequent reader, super infrequent commenter...I'm curious if anyone has had any experiences with Implanon! I have an appointment to get it next week and I'm nervous, I've heard super mixed things about it, some people love it, some hate it. I had two mirena IUDs and both expelled themselves (augh!) but I loved the low failure rate, and want a similar "set it and forget it" method that actually works with my body. I'm on the pill now and react fine to it, but am not great at taking it at the same time every day and want something better. I know everyone's bodies are different but I'm always curious to hear some experiences!
@RocketSurgeon Sounds amazing! I voted.
Thanks!! Yeah, I want something super reliable and haven't had luck with IUDs (RIP Mirenas), so I think I'm going to give this a try...
@Katzen-party yeah I was shocked and excited that it hadn't been taken yet!
This is my first post on the Hairpin, but I already creepily feel like I know y'all because I've been reading/loving the Hairpin forever!
To jump right into an over-share....has anybody ever used (and liked! or hated! or felt indifferent about!) implanon as birth control?