not actually a hairdresser, actually a smiths lover
Yo I enjoy the pragmatic responses to these on the whole, buuuut pretty sad/irked by LW1? Hate to get all patriarchy-smashy, but both LW1's excuses for her husband and A Dude's gender essentialism moved me to comment for the first time in like, a year. In addition to practical steps like positive reinforcement, mayyyybe a good idea to look at egalitarianism in your relationship and expectations around gender. Might be enlightening.
@bitzy Late to the party but WHAT'S UP MY SCHOOL TOO?!?!?
(confidential to Hairpin Seatown meetup folks: Let's have another?)
My not-humble brag from Seattle: $618 for the biggest room in a 14 room house, which includes utilities, sundries AND food. Which is cooked for me, in exchange for also cooking and doing chores and so on. On a serious note: co-ops! If you don't mind hippie shit, I recommend the lifestyle, although not all are created equal--mine is super clean and everyone is wonderful, but I know of other places where there's cat shit on the floors, drugs being dealt, and huge parties that trash the house.
Also in undergrad, ~$410 for a decent sized room in a shitty house in Champaign, IL. Which, I know, flyover country, but I'm kind of bitter about that, especially living on a coast for the first time ever and hearing that kind of shit all the time. I don't wanna be bitter towards people in this thread, but Christ, it's like all we do in the Midwest is lasso pigs or something. Even my tiny college town had a spectacular arts and music scene, an awesome farmer's market, trendy bars, and without the attitude. What's the beef, y'all?
Umm can someone speak to my horror about dropping out of a MA program in international studies after year 1 of 2? I got some great input from Xanthophylippa and others about this butttt that was before I got indefinitely waitlisted on funding at a program I cannot afford or justify affording. Am I going to fuck myself over forever on getting into good programs in something else because I couldn't finish???? AAAAHHHH
@rararuby I think the hardest part for me is articulating that, which you just did really eloquently! Not to mention I'm trying to shake off the academia brainwashing--it's especially hard when all of the mentors in my life are pretty firmly ensconced in the academy. But I'll keep that in mind, for sure. I guess my problem is mainly I need to just start applying like mad to whatever I like? Another problem is I have zero experience and that makes me really worried...
@Lily Rowan Yeah, I've been scoping out the museum thing, which seems like a dead end: the internships are largely unpaid and warred over, and I'm not sure how else to get my foot in the door. The policy institute thing I'm checking out...it's been a bit of a struggle since a lot of them are in DC and I don't know if I'm mentally prepared to move cross-country again (or that I have the financial mobility to do so). This is more or less a "blerg" post; I've never done this and it's exciting and frustrating! Aahhh! Thanks though, for real :)
@wharrgarbl *whisper* I write poems???! If anyone's down with that. Maybe people like poems. I'm workin' on it: http://adheretome.tumblr.com/
@Veronica Mars is smarter than me Seattle by way of Chicago. I didn't do the digging-kind of anth, I was sociocultural and linguistic. I don't really know what I want to do, which is making this harder? I like, have big vague concepts like "studying other cultures and their relationship to America" and "social justice" and "feminism," but those aren't directly applicable to a straight-up J-O-B job. I've always thought something in museums or a public policy institute would be up my alley, but I truly don't know. Another contributing factor: loads and loads of loans! I wish I had time to explore and hash things out on my own time, but I have an $(embarrassing) sized anvil over my head. So basically gaahhh.
Welp, it's looking pretty good that I'm leaving my horrible MA program at the ripe old age of 23 re: no funding to be had and also I hate it. Looking for a big girl job is hard? I've never done it? And I have no idea what I'm qualified for since I graduated with an anthropology BA. So I'm going to live in a box probably.