On Coming-Out Technology, Exiting the Girlfriend Zone, and the Lesbro Conundrum

I think this is a little unduly harsh on LW3- the girl having had a falling out with a previous friend's girlfriend over asking him to be a sperm donor makes me think she might not be great at boundaries. If she asked someone to be a sperm donor in a way that wasn't respectful of that person having a girlfriend who also would have legitimate feelings about that request, it seems likely to me that she's acting disrespectfully towards the LW in passive aggressive ways and that's the real source of the crazy feelings, though there clearly is some garden-variety irrational jealousy mixed up in it as well.

Posted on March 13, 2014 at 3:35 pm 6

On If They Can't Dance, They Can't Kiss!

This just seems. . .wrong. Kids aren't going to stay home and text each other rather than go to a dance and make out, they're just going to make out somewhere else, because school dances are lame and difficult to sneak alcohol into. If anything, this suggests to me that more kids are rejecting the "Prom King" ideal of popularity and that can only be a good thing.

Posted on March 11, 2014 at 10:00 am 0

On Are You a Grown Woman? An Informal Survey

I would like Ellie Shechet, 23, to please become my new best friend.

Posted on December 20, 2013 at 3:04 pm 2

On Boy-Crazy But Curious, Dating While Disabled, and Introducing Parents to Your "New Norm"

Kind of a huge leap to suggest that LW1 might want "loving sexless relationships with men", isn't it? She says that she does have pantsfeelings when she talks to men she likes, she just hasn't had a fulfilling sexual encounter with one yet. I didn't have anything really resembling a satisfying sexual encounter until my third partner.

Maybe I'm just grouchy because I'm 26 and describe myself as boy-crazy, so QC hurt my feelings. The rest of this is all fantastic.

Posted on September 17, 2013 at 4:00 pm 4

On You're One in Eight Million

@Pound of Salt Same here. My two closest female friends are actually people who lived on the same floor of my dorm my freshman year of college, but we were only acquaintances then. Then random circumstances brought us together years later and now we're super close. But this is definitely not a solution, because most of my friendships have happened by. . .magic? But honestly most of my romantic relationships have happened by magic too so maybe there are no solutions to anything, only magic.

Posted on June 27, 2013 at 5:36 pm 3

On You're One in Eight Million

Wow, am I really gonna be the first person on this comment thread to be like "HI AUTHOR LADY CAN WE BE FRIENDS?!?!"

I mean, seriously. . .I'm not lacking in friends because I've lived in NYC my entire adult life, but I could always use some more! If this offer is not completely creepy we should totally go on a friend date. I know a bunch of fun places to see live bluegrass in the city!

Posted on June 27, 2013 at 5:33 pm 2

On Weird Boyfriends and Height Differences

@Mrs. Bob Benson? I think it'd be unethical to STOP hooking up with him because you know this. And it was unethical for your friend to disclose that information to you; I'm sure he'd be very angry with her if he knew that information he disclosed to her in confidence had gotten told to someone he's involved with. He's the only person who can define his sexuality for himself, and if he's having sex with you it's because he wants to. Whether he's also attracted to men is neither here nor there.

Posted on June 26, 2013 at 2:51 pm 1

On Weird Boyfriends and Height Differences

@RoyRogersMcFreely Seriously, he said he's "not as attracted to her anymore" because she isn't bi? What the actual fuck??

Posted on June 26, 2013 at 2:17 pm 0

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

@raised amongst catalogs I had one horrible drink #4 experience where my drunk-brain concluded that because he had had four drinks with me but wasn't making a move or flirting very much he must just be shy, so I declared "You're really cute!" and he just sort of blushed and said he had to go and it was MORTIFYING.

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 10:10 am 0

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

I also found this hilarious. . .and it confirms every uncomfortable suspicion I've ever had about how obvious it is when I'm on an okcupid date. Sigh.

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 10:07 am 2