I think this is a little unduly harsh on LW3- the girl having had a falling out with a previous friend's girlfriend over asking him to be a sperm donor makes me think she might not be great at boundaries. If she asked someone to be a sperm donor in a way that wasn't respectful of that person having a girlfriend who also would have legitimate feelings about that request, it seems likely to me that she's acting disrespectfully towards the LW in passive aggressive ways and that's the real source of the crazy feelings, though there clearly is some garden-variety irrational jealousy mixed up in it as well.
This just seems. . .wrong. Kids aren't going to stay home and text each other rather than go to a dance and make out, they're just going to make out somewhere else, because school dances are lame and difficult to sneak alcohol into. If anything, this suggests to me that more kids are rejecting the "Prom King" ideal of popularity and that can only be a good thing.
I would like Ellie Shechet, 23, to please become my new best friend.
Kind of a huge leap to suggest that LW1 might want "loving sexless relationships with men", isn't it? She says that she does have pantsfeelings when she talks to men she likes, she just hasn't had a fulfilling sexual encounter with one yet. I didn't have anything really resembling a satisfying sexual encounter until my third partner.
Maybe I'm just grouchy because I'm 26 and describe myself as boy-crazy, so QC hurt my feelings. The rest of this is all fantastic.
@Pound of Salt Same here. My two closest female friends are actually people who lived on the same floor of my dorm my freshman year of college, but we were only acquaintances then. Then random circumstances brought us together years later and now we're super close. But this is definitely not a solution, because most of my friendships have happened by. . .magic? But honestly most of my romantic relationships have happened by magic too so maybe there are no solutions to anything, only magic.
Wow, am I really gonna be the first person on this comment thread to be like "HI AUTHOR LADY CAN WE BE FRIENDS?!?!"
I mean, seriously. . .I'm not lacking in friends because I've lived in NYC my entire adult life, but I could always use some more! If this offer is not completely creepy we should totally go on a friend date. I know a bunch of fun places to see live bluegrass in the city!
@Mrs. Bob Benson? I think it'd be unethical to STOP hooking up with him because you know this. And it was unethical for your friend to disclose that information to you; I'm sure he'd be very angry with her if he knew that information he disclosed to her in confidence had gotten told to someone he's involved with. He's the only person who can define his sexuality for himself, and if he's having sex with you it's because he wants to. Whether he's also attracted to men is neither here nor there.
@RoyRogersMcFreely Seriously, he said he's "not as attracted to her anymore" because she isn't bi? What the actual fuck??
@raised amongst catalogs I had one horrible drink #4 experience where my drunk-brain concluded that because he had had four drinks with me but wasn't making a move or flirting very much he must just be shy, so I declared "You're really cute!" and he just sort of blushed and said he had to go and it was MORTIFYING.
I also found this hilarious. . .and it confirms every uncomfortable suspicion I've ever had about how obvious it is when I'm on an okcupid date. Sigh.