On You're One in Eight Million

Wow, am I really gonna be the first person on this comment thread to be like "HI AUTHOR LADY CAN WE BE FRIENDS?!?!"

I mean, seriously. . .I'm not lacking in friends because I've lived in NYC my entire adult life, but I could always use some more! If this offer is not completely creepy we should totally go on a friend date. I know a bunch of fun places to see live bluegrass in the city!

Posted on June 27, 2013 at 5:33 pm 2

On Weird Boyfriends and Height Differences

@Mrs. Bob Benson? I think it'd be unethical to STOP hooking up with him because you know this. And it was unethical for your friend to disclose that information to you; I'm sure he'd be very angry with her if he knew that information he disclosed to her in confidence had gotten told to someone he's involved with. He's the only person who can define his sexuality for himself, and if he's having sex with you it's because he wants to. Whether he's also attracted to men is neither here nor there.

Posted on June 26, 2013 at 2:51 pm 1

On Weird Boyfriends and Height Differences

@RoyRogersMcFreely Seriously, he said he's "not as attracted to her anymore" because she isn't bi? What the actual fuck??

Posted on June 26, 2013 at 2:17 pm 0

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

@raised amongst catalogs I had one horrible drink #4 experience where my drunk-brain concluded that because he had had four drinks with me but wasn't making a move or flirting very much he must just be shy, so I declared "You're really cute!" and he just sort of blushed and said he had to go and it was MORTIFYING.

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 10:10 am 0

On How to Behave on Your Online Date: A Bartender’s Perspective

I also found this hilarious. . .and it confirms every uncomfortable suspicion I've ever had about how obvious it is when I'm on an okcupid date. Sigh.

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 10:07 am 2

On Do You Need a Hug?

@datalass Oh man, working as a progressive organizer/activist means SO MUCH HUGGING. And standing in circles hand-holding and sharing of feelings. The number of times I've been at meetings and wanted to shout "FOR CHRIST'S SAKE PEOPLE I KNOW WE'RE CHANGING THE WORLD OR WHATEVER BUT WE'RE STILL GODDAMNED ADULTS" is. . .a lot of times.

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 1:22 pm 1

On Recreational Flirting and Other People's LDRs

If we had a betting pool on this, I'd be betting that by the time this was published LW4 has already kicked the girlfriend out and LW3 has already drunkenly tried to kiss her taken friend.

Posted on May 17, 2013 at 12:33 pm 20

On Friends' Relationships, Sex, and the Ones Who Get Halfway Away

I feel like she kind of missed the point on LW1. It's not just that the friend is annoying, it's that she's doing something unhealthy and is also asking the LW for advice, and she doesn't know how to handle it. The relationship doesn't sound like it's just "pursuing someone on a different coast". She's asking her to "analyze" these OKcupid conversations, and it probably feels disengenuous to help her analyze conversations without being like "BUT ALSO BTW STOP TALKING TO HIM THIS IS CRAZY". Personally, when it's a close friend doing this I just say what I mean in as nice a way as possible. "Look, I love you and I understand that you feel strongly about this guy, and believe me I've been there, but this relationship is really unhealthy and you need to cut it off" If it's not a friend I feel comfortable saying that to. . .she probably wouldn't be someone I talk to that much anyways, but I guess I would follow A Lady's strategy in that case.

Posted on April 12, 2013 at 1:26 pm 3

On Friends' Relationships, Sex, and the Ones Who Get Halfway Away

@fabel LW2 is just maaaajorly overthinking. This whole process should have taken two minutes. "Hey, I wonder what happened to that cute guy I was friends with years ago? Hmm I bet I could find him on Facebook, maybe I should finally make one since I've been too lazy to in the past! *Makes a Facebook* *Messages the Guy* *Sees what happens*. The act of looking up this guy isn't weird, it's the maaaajor big deal she's making of it.

Posted on April 12, 2013 at 1:20 pm 7

On Bi Identification, Moving Out, and the Rhinestone-Encrusted Manicure

@Nicole Cliffe What Autostraddle piece? Hints, at least!

Posted on April 9, 2013 at 2:09 pm 1