"There are entirely too many people out there behaving as though “I’m not looking for a serious relationship” is a get-out-of-being-a-considerate-human-being-free card, leaving emotional wreckage in their wake, and I don’t want you to be one of them.People that you are casually dating and/or casually having sex with deserve to be treated like real people, even if you’re not interested in them as romantic partners. Think of your casual hookups as “a friend I sometimes see naked,” not “a sex person who is literally only for sex.”"
Do you think people would react poorly to me printing that out on a postcard and handing it to them when they suggest a casual relationship? Because that might be the only thing that makes me even feel like bothering anymore.
On Riding the Staten Island Ferry for the Sake of Riding of the Staten Island Ferry on a Wednesday Afternoon
Having recently left a period of unemployment, I say: Bullshit. You watched 14 episodes of Frasier and fell asleep on the 15th. I KNOW YOU.
Way to make me hate the thing that is currently curing my hangover, UGH.
@themegnapkin This might be due to living somewhere where I rely on public transportation, but I prefer my place so as to minimize public weeping.
@RachelTheC And that someone else is driven wild by the way every NYTimes article headline is formatted "For____, ____". "For the elderly, death!" "For Millennials, Waffles!"
@Quinn A@twitter Yeah, I think it's hard to really know what's happening exactly-- but to me, it's perfectly fine to be closer to one person and talk mostly to them, but if you meet their partner you should at least make a friendly effort to get to know them, and include them in conversations when it makes sense to do so. The 'eye contact' bit of the sentence makes it sound like the girl is actively leaving her out of the conversation when she's sitting right there, which is real rude.
@Quinn A@twitter I hear that, but I feel like AQC made it sound like it was ALL in the LW's head and the girl had done nothing wrong: she actually says 'she's been a little rude to you, sure, but she hasn't really done anything wrong.'Ignoring your friend's partner when you're all hanging out is more than a little rude-- I feel like this girl definitely has some jealousy issues, but being told it's all in her head when it probably isn't is not going to help anything.
I think this is a little unduly harsh on LW3- the girl having had a falling out with a previous friend's girlfriend over asking him to be a sperm donor makes me think she might not be great at boundaries. If she asked someone to be a sperm donor in a way that wasn't respectful of that person having a girlfriend who also would have legitimate feelings about that request, it seems likely to me that she's acting disrespectfully towards the LW in passive aggressive ways and that's the real source of the crazy feelings, though there clearly is some garden-variety irrational jealousy mixed up in it as well.
This just seems. . .wrong. Kids aren't going to stay home and text each other rather than go to a dance and make out, they're just going to make out somewhere else, because school dances are lame and difficult to sneak alcohol into. If anything, this suggests to me that more kids are rejecting the "Prom King" ideal of popularity and that can only be a good thing.
I would like Ellie Shechet, 23, to please become my new best friend.