@themegnapkin This might be due to living somewhere where I rely on public transportation, but I prefer my place so as to minimize public weeping.
@RachelTheC And that someone else is driven wild by the way every NYTimes article headline is formatted "For____, ____". "For the elderly, death!" "For Millennials, Waffles!"
@Quinn A@twitter Yeah, I think it's hard to really know what's happening exactly-- but to me, it's perfectly fine to be closer to one person and talk mostly to them, but if you meet their partner you should at least make a friendly effort to get to know them, and include them in conversations when it makes sense to do so. The 'eye contact' bit of the sentence makes it sound like the girl is actively leaving her out of the conversation when she's sitting right there, which is real rude.
@Quinn A@twitter I hear that, but I feel like AQC made it sound like it was ALL in the LW's head and the girl had done nothing wrong: she actually says 'she's been a little rude to you, sure, but she hasn't really done anything wrong.'Ignoring your friend's partner when you're all hanging out is more than a little rude-- I feel like this girl definitely has some jealousy issues, but being told it's all in her head when it probably isn't is not going to help anything.
I think this is a little unduly harsh on LW3- the girl having had a falling out with a previous friend's girlfriend over asking him to be a sperm donor makes me think she might not be great at boundaries. If she asked someone to be a sperm donor in a way that wasn't respectful of that person having a girlfriend who also would have legitimate feelings about that request, it seems likely to me that she's acting disrespectfully towards the LW in passive aggressive ways and that's the real source of the crazy feelings, though there clearly is some garden-variety irrational jealousy mixed up in it as well.
This just seems. . .wrong. Kids aren't going to stay home and text each other rather than go to a dance and make out, they're just going to make out somewhere else, because school dances are lame and difficult to sneak alcohol into. If anything, this suggests to me that more kids are rejecting the "Prom King" ideal of popularity and that can only be a good thing.
I would like Ellie Shechet, 23, to please become my new best friend.
Kind of a huge leap to suggest that LW1 might want "loving sexless relationships with men", isn't it? She says that she does have pantsfeelings when she talks to men she likes, she just hasn't had a fulfilling sexual encounter with one yet. I didn't have anything really resembling a satisfying sexual encounter until my third partner.
Maybe I'm just grouchy because I'm 26 and describe myself as boy-crazy, so QC hurt my feelings. The rest of this is all fantastic.
@Pound of Salt Same here. My two closest female friends are actually people who lived on the same floor of my dorm my freshman year of college, but we were only acquaintances then. Then random circumstances brought us together years later and now we're super close. But this is definitely not a solution, because most of my friendships have happened by. . .magic? But honestly most of my romantic relationships have happened by magic too so maybe there are no solutions to anything, only magic.
Wow, am I really gonna be the first person on this comment thread to be like "HI AUTHOR LADY CAN WE BE FRIENDS?!?!"
I mean, seriously. . .I'm not lacking in friends because I've lived in NYC my entire adult life, but I could always use some more! If this offer is not completely creepy we should totally go on a friend date. I know a bunch of fun places to see live bluegrass in the city!