By Better to Eat You With on A Student Tells Me “I Would Do Anything, And I Do Mean Anything, For a C”
@angermonkey "I learned early on that I could not care more about their success than they did, it would just make me a crazy person."
This. This is the lesson we all have to learn if we're going to survive.
@fondue with cheddar This. I took a hard line with my students, because they ALL have a sad story. Every one of them. And you can care about them and feel bad for them, but in the end: Do they give two shits about you? These college students? No. 99% of the time they only give half a shit about their GRADE. Certainly not enough to actually come to class.
I learned early on that I could not care more about their success than they did, it would just make me a crazy person.
My standing analogy is that undergraduates are like zombies. They aren't real people, and if you give in and do one a favor, the rest will eat your brains. THE END.
I just want to say how much I loved this, and that is all.
Had me at "Would you do the reading?"
@MilesofMountains Oh honey baby. Oh my sweet slice of scrumptious shoofly pie. You gotta dig down deep in the rich, wet earth, deeper than you think you can, til you come up clutching something precious, something you won't want anyone else to see, something you can't bear to part with. And then you have to give that thing away. Without flinching. With a filthy, tarnished bravery you only just found.
I go back and forth on Sugar, but I know what you mean.
@Cat named Virtute I really loved that Adam and Hannah ended up like that, in that I think it's 1000% on the nose the way people who are really messed up mostly reach out and are supported/dragged down by other really messed up people, and it totally feels like this other messed up person is saving you. Having Marnie or Shosh be the person to help her out seems more like how people think it should happen than how it actually does happen.
By RK Fire on Last Night's 'Girls'
No one is going to mention Kevin Spacey's ridiculous Southern Drawl? (It deserves that capital "D" for being so thick.) It's not sexy but damnit, it should be recognized for ridiculousness!
@parallel-lines I haven't seen SLP, but as someone who had a depressive breakdown last year, I saw NOTHING romantic/romanticized about what has happened to Hannah in the last three episodes, and in fact last night ran horribly true for me. (Adam coming back notwithstanding--I maintain that that was tragedy, not romance, especially after how we saw him with Natalia last week). The sad truth of it is that when you're dealing with depression or anxiety or serious OCD, you CAN'T pick the glass up by yourself. You need help, and when you can't get it because you've alienated it, fucked up things happen.
@zamboni Agreed. If they let Hannah and Adam's reunion becoming a redemption without some SERIOUS processing and caveats (and really I hope they don't go that route at all), I am going to be majorly annoyed.
By j-i-a on The New SAHM
Guys, I think this article brought up some really new and provocative ideas--I actually wrote a follow-up piece that I hope you'll consider checking out here