Conjecture maybe, but that sounds right :-O
Okay BUT. It generally takes 2-3 glasses of wine for me to feel any happy, slightly buzzy effects. 1 = nada.
I'm a kind of tall competitive athlete, and have noticed it can be different if it's just after a competition--though sometimes after competing I can drink 4 drinks and just get a headache, no buzz (because my metabolism is in overdrive? Too dehydrated? I don't know!). What is UP, y'all?
@Megasus Yes, maybe I should have said that to call those kids "stupid people" is dismissive and lacks an analysis of why they would post evidence of their crimes on the internet.
You are missing the point that cultural context is important. And the way you responded to it was offensive because of that cultural context. Kids who grow up surrounded by violence and then replicate that violence while publicly displaying that they have given up hope for their life are not the same as young men who are celebrated athletes basking in male privilege and suburban naivete. They are not equally "stupid." I would definitely say that both are cases that put society's failings in full view.
@Megasus It's not stupidity. Bravado is a HUGE part of gang culture. Documentation gets at a part of it, but it's also about not giving a fuck. You join a gang in which that kind of violence is expected, and you've already committed to the idea that you're going to jail or you're going to die.
These are young people who are navigating an entirely different form of the society in which you enjoy, relative to them, a degree of acceptance. Dismissing them as stupid is actually pretty offensive.
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@karenb Yeah; kind of seems like a "don't read the comments" day on the Hairpin, too. How many times can people say the word "normal" in reference to an Anglo name? Ready...go! Oh wait, you started without me.
@Passion Fruit Totally. And it can be so hard to forgive yourself!
@Passion Fruit I once heard someone make the comment "I'm just a recovering white supremacist, like everyone else." Which turned me off so hard at first, but then I realized "no yeah, at least, I am," and think about it a lot when I find myself internalizing oppression or forcing myself to deal with fucked up, racist shit I've said/thought/done. Having safe spaces/people to talk to helps. Is that kind of what you mean?
Oh, this made me so sad. I am also really stoked for its existence on the Pin. But you do not have to be okay with "everyday racism" (microaggressions)! I wish no one had to feel this way. I'm a POC and have been lucky enough to slowly become surrounded by an anti-racist community, but I remember (and of course still encounter/succumb to) that constant whittling away of individuality particular to POC under the gaze and expectations of the dominant (white) culture--I remember it fucking me up so incredibly much, and I remember giving up. It's so awful and it's almost everywhere. It's all over you and you don't get a say. Here's to a community of resistance and love.
@m. marie And yet you keep going back to that old standard, "I'm smarter than you!" I guess it makes you feel better? I'd rather be direct than condescending. It's clear that you're not actually as well-versed in this shit as you think you are. Words have nuance that travels beyond "but I used scare quotes, so it's ironic." Calling something "blacker" and then equating it with "parties, drugs, and bitches" is racist. If your intent is to call out the way other people think, you better be explicit about that shit. And if your first reaction to offending someone with your racistness is "she must be too dumb to get meeeeee," check yourself.