@blueberry mary " I just don't want to be that asshole who uses someone or leads them on."
Seems like as long as you're honest about where you are feelingswise, both with yourself and with him, then you'll be okay. If you are enjoying being with him and he's enjoying being with you, why stop? Eventually one of you will probably bring up the question of where the relationship is going, and at that point you can reevaluate. As long as you aren't telling him you're madly in love with him when you aren't, no harm no foul. If he's looking for more, it's up to him to say so (in the same way it would be up to you to so if you were).
You say that you've never been in a relationship before, and maybe your expectations are a little unrealistic? Its very easy to have a crush on someone and get that fluttery feeling, but longer term comfortable is good.
I think someone else already asked Do you look forward to seeing him and spending time with him? Does he make you smile?
If you answer no to both of those, then I'd say walk now. If not, I'd say give it more time.
@rosaline Woohoo! My neighborhood made a concerted effort to organize (via email) so all the parents knew where people would be home, and I got about 15 trick or treators. This is way up from the 5 last year. I actually ran out of candy and had to borrow some from my neighbor.
So confused. How is it that the obesity epidemic didn't hit in the 1950s, with all that mayo, crisco and sugary jello?
Was it that everything tasted like such crap that no one actually ate anything?
@cabber Since they're racist, make a donation in their honor to something like the NAACP or the Anti Defamation League. Then send a nice card saying "So sorry we couldn't attend, but to celebrate the joyous event, we're donating X amount in your name to (anti-racism group). Love and Kisses!"
Then enjoy imagining their horror at receiving it, and inability to respond.
Solo travel is the main thing I miss about being single! I travelled all over by myself when I was single and it was great. I don't think you can meet people as easily or have the random adventures when you're in a couple. But solo travel pushes you to talk to strangers and stay in hostels and do things on a whim.
Skukerman is going to give me nightmares for weeks. Creepy!!!
@katesmash Sorry to hear it, but trust me, better to get it over with now, than to deal with the later effects if it goes untreated.
The sun sensitivity may not be as bad as they tell you - I was on doxy for a few years and only had a problem once when I let me sunscreen wash off while hiking.
This just gives you an excuse (like one is needed) to wear fabulous hats and don't-look-at-me sunglasses like a movie star.
Did the doctor tell you not to drink? I found that sometimes alcohol would interact with it to cause stomach pain.
@deirdre That's my story too! I almost flunked out, memory loss, insomnia but then would fall asleep in classes (people I didn't know at the time used to watch me falling asleep) and even during karate, and was told I had fibromyalgia to explain the pain and fatigue. But then, my mom, dad and the dog all got diagnosed with Lyme (mom and dad had classic rash plus found ticks), so they made me get tested over winter break, and the pa said I had one of the highest titers she'd ever seen. It took several years on meds to clear. My GPA jumped by a full point.
I actually think I know when I got it - junior year of high school, I remember one day in spring our gym teacher just let us hang out outside in a field, not doing much, and we all got covered in tiny little insects, then I had an all over body rash a few days later. I think those were the immature deer ticks.
I assume that pretty much everyone in that class got Lyme, whether they know it or not.
@Cat named Virtute Same here! I find this fascinating, but also don't read anything that sounds worth staying for.
Of course, I'm not a huge fan of groups/communities in general (I disagree that humans are social animals!), so I'm biased, but it sounds like the author has come to accept herself as living without any of the basic tenets of the religion. So why not vote with her feet rather than trying to change it?
On Ernest Hemingway to his mother in 1913: "P.S. My shirt buttons all fly off when I take a full breath"
How did such an adorable little boy grow up into such a misogynistic, self-absorbed prat? (Disclaimer: I just finished reading "The Paris Wife" by Paula McLain, and even though his first wife Hadley apparently never stopped loving him, he comes off as a complete and thorough a$$matt.)