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Huh. I sort of love it, actually. It's weird, but I think it's a cool weird. The lotus flower on the link creeps me out a little, but that's because it looks like a lot of eyes, and a few of the animals do, but that's because I am freaked out by fish and sea animals. But the flowers and honeycomb and that thing up top? I totally want to touch them and feel all the bumps and caves.
....I am so evolutionarily screwed, apparently.
@Faintly Macabre Ugh! I get that. That's exactly my response, too. (Down to the near panic attack at trying to call me.)
That totally does help, a lot. We do have very different texting styles (his appears to be pretending that we are already dating and checking in 3-4 times a day, to which my response is, "We have met twice, I am not your little anything and why do you contact me more than my boundary-issued mother does???") But he is delightfully nerdy and sweet and not at all clingy in real life, so who knows? As long as our styles match up in person (and he understands that I'm going to ignore 75% of his texts?), maybe we're cool?
Thanks, guys. Checking in here is keeping me sane!
Hey, guys! I posted two weeks ago, nervous about a date and needing to reframe my mental script into something more positive. It totally worked (the suggestion of exercising was implemented by a dash to the train that left an hour earlier than planned!) and he was cute and adorable and I had a fabulous time. Thank you, guys, because I think your collective sanity and wisdom helped a great deal.
Now we've been texting for two weeks because he's been out of town and it's been progressively less fun - I like him so much in person and so very little over text! We're going out on Sunday and I am trying to cling to the sheer amount of fun I had last time and stay positive. It's not going well, but maybe I can make this work. Just gotta keep rewriting the mental script.
@Bittersweet (let's see if this comment goes through...my earlier one did in Firefox and not IE? Weirdness.)
I've seen it. It's...not Anne. But it is Megan Follows and Jonathan Crombie, so there's that. My friend and I met him at the stage door of Drowsy Chaperone - he said he and Megan only signed on to try and make the script more Anne compliant and were disappointed to fail. I feel like the ending could dovetail into House of Dreams pretty well, if I trusted Kevin Sullivan to try another one!
And no, the miniseries came out in 1985, not 1982.
1982b = 1985, right? The movie wasn't out in 1982.
2013 = not real. I mean, it's real, but it was just a self-pubbed thing trying to make money on an out of print book. I don't think it's worth the uproar it got. It's wrong, yes, but it's not a real publisher in stores.
1945 = best cover.
For the record, I love Anne so much that the book was my prop in my HS senior pictures.
I LOVE THIS BOOK.
I've even read the sequels (except The Husband Bench, I don't love Bev enough. Sorry Bev), because I delight in knowing what happened to everyone as adults, though they pale to this first one. It's Mad Men meets malt shop, and it is a thing of great beauty. I really need to buy this rather than keep checking it out from the library.
@Jinxie @laurel @Rose Camelia @stonefruit @lemonadefish
I'll try to remember to repost next Friday, because it doesn't seem like notifications are working right now. But!
I accidentally engaged in a lot of exercise when I realized the train left an hour earlier than I thought and I had to run there or text him I'd be an hour late. But I made it! And that wore me out, and gave me an hour to have tea and browse my favorite store before I met him, which was relaxing. And then he was half an hour late, so I got to read by the lake and relax more. And then he got there and I remembered that he's cute and charming and I didn't panic once. Huzzah! Thanks for the advice, ladies!
@laurel @Rose Camelia @stonefruit @lemonadefish
Exercise! I can do that, that's a great idea. I'll have all morning to walk my errands instead of drive, which should help a great deal. Too bad this is the one Saturday Zumba is canceled.
I do have some breathing exercises to try, and that's an important thing to remember.
So: wear myself out, breathing, practice a very charming spiel about the wonders of Doctor Who. Those are things I can focus on. Thanks!
Okay! This has been a very high anxiety week. I am set to go on date #2 with a guy tomorrow afternoon. The venue (downtown museum, at his suggestion) is entirely up my alley and awesome, but it is still causing more anxiety than usual, due to my anxiety levels starting higher than usual.
My question: what are some techniques I can use to settle myself during the inevitable panic attacks that will occur when I try to get myself on the train to meet him tomorrow? My go to has always been to tell myself that it's fine, it's one afternoon, I just need to have fun at the venue and if he's okay it's just gravy, one date doesn't mean anything, I never have to see him again if I don't like him, just get through the day and you get to stop for a tea on the way home, etc. Which technically works, in that I get through the panic and I make it to the date, but it also distances me from the idea that it's a date and I should be trying to see if I have fun *with him.* Does that make sense? It gets me through the panic, which I need to get me there, but gives me too much of an out in terms of my behavior. I need a new script, at the very least.
This guy isn't the type of guy I've usually gone out with (he doesn't even watch Doctor Who!! What will we talk about?!) - he's flirty and direct about the fact that he likes me and that is legit terrifying, though I'd like it not to be. I'd like to try and have fun. So, I come to you all. Tips?
(Yes, I am in therapy. She's on vacation this week.)