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@nocturne I think it was on another thread here awhile back where someone recommended ignoring the match number and paying attention to the enemy. That helped me a ton. I'll totally go out with someone if we only match at 70% or so if our enemy is less than 10 or 15%.
@TheMnemosyne I think it's nerdiness. I think I get the guys who keyword search for their favorite geek shows and hobbies and find my profile. It's not across the board, there's been at least one guy I did go out with who wasn't fandomy, but I think it accounts for a lot. So maybe adding in keywords to attract certain types drowns out the whackjobs?
@adorable-eggplant @Statham Ditto. All the online dating hate makes me a little sad, not the least because I think it's the only dating I've ever done. (Minus one or two guys.) I don't think I've ever gotten more than a handful of creepy emails, and while I do get quite a lot of vague emails clearly mass sent, I also get a lot of personalized emails about my profile. It's led to some fun dates and some funny-after-the-fact stories, which is all you can ask for. (Outside of a lasting relationship, I guess. ;))
Ugh, this is so me. I've had to come to terms with the fact that is largely my fault that I barely date at all. Emotional intimacy = my Waterloo. Therapy is helping, bit by tiny bit.
But I do have good experiences through OKC. I get my share of "hello gorgeous" emails that get mass sent, of course, but I've never gotten anything creepy or inappropriate. Most are tailored to my profile and engagingly written. And even though I have on there that I'm such a WW2 history geek that I've done pinup photoshoots, the only time that comes up is when guys ask me about my favorite aspect of the war. I mean, seriously? I am both super lucky and sort of feeling like I'm being left out!
@KatieBarTheDoor I love Bare Escentuals, but it took practice. They'll teach you, though. Ditto Lush - I actually don't like most of their makeup colors, so I only use bath, cleansers and lotions, but they will definitely take the time to teach you everything.
Stila came highly recommended to me by the makeup artist who got me all pretty for my last pin-up shoot. She raved about quality and pricing, and says she uses it for every day, photography and movie filming.
As mentioned above, I adore adore adore Benefit's mascara. It does amazing things for me.
@sherbet YAY! I hope you enjoy it. Report back if you can!
@sherbet @stonefruit I'm an Anne girl through and through, in that I want to be like her and I return to her whenever I need comfort. I understand Emily much more, though the one LMM heroine I most strongly identify with is Valancy, from The Blue Castle. She has Anne's dreams, but Emily's realism and a lot that is just her own.
Intellectually, I understand this. But emotionally, I cannot accept it. I snooze 3 or 4 times, I think. I don't usually fall back asleep, I just doze and daydream and use it as a gauge for how much longer until I have to drag myself out of bed.
Except for the days when I totally do sleep. Like today. Yawn.
@Quinn A@twitter YOU GUYS ARE SO GORGEOUS! Seriously. I still have a ridiculous grin on my face.
It is totally fine to email the photographer and point out the pictures you liked best and the angles you liked best and ask for tips on how to work with him to get more of the shots you liked. He wants you to love them, too, so he gets recommendations from you. It's in his best interests to make you feel your best, and he won't know what that is until you tell him.
As for seeing the joy, I had to totally police my thoughts when I got my pinup shots back. They were lovely! They totally showed how much fun I had! And there was my big thighs, and that was a bulge, and that was an awkward face and why didn't that scar get airbrushed out and and and. I had to tack on extra thoughts - but wasn't that a cute outfit? That was totally when I fell off the suitcase, wasn't it? My legs kicked ass in that dress! I can't stop myself from acknowledging the issue, but I can counter it with friendlier thoughts and now when I look at the pictures, I see both but focus on the positive. And that helped tremendously. Keep acknowledging the joy and memories that you see, because they are equally valid and soon that will be the overriding feeling. And display the ones that you really, totally love.
(Also, GOOD OMENS! I like you guys.)
Huh. I sort of love it, actually. It's weird, but I think it's a cool weird. The lotus flower on the link creeps me out a little, but that's because it looks like a lot of eyes, and a few of the animals do, but that's because I am freaked out by fish and sea animals. But the flowers and honeycomb and that thing up top? I totally want to touch them and feel all the bumps and caves.
....I am so evolutionarily screwed, apparently.