@Clare Boyle@facebook I HATED Wen. I've used Devacurl for years and figured it would be comparable, but it sucked and made my (curly, dry, long) hair heavy and sticky and gross-feeling, like it was coated.
@JadeX As long as its natural oil (nothing silicone in it) there's kind of...no reason to get it all out? I basically use argan oil as a conditioner sometimes, so it's not incompatible with this. I know it's kind of gross right after you get them, but once your scalp has adjusted its own oil production, this should actually be fine.
@meg_r I'm not black but I do have that regulation Jewish curly/frizzy hair, and have been shampoo-free for like 15 years now? I don't go full hippie, since I'm not doing this for environmental reasons--I use a natural-ish conditioner (Devacurl One Condition) and comb my hair out when I have conditioner in, and not otherwise. Ignore EVERYTHING about brushing; that is for straight-haired people and your instincts are correct. I also use a little conditioner or the Devacurl gel which breaks down pretty easily to style.
@Gilgongo Oh ugh yes. First really big one I ever encountered, in college. It was like he'd unzip and get and be like, "okay, I did my part, the rest is up to you!" Even as a college freshman I was pretty unimpressed with the overall experience, to the point where for a long time I thought I preferred average-size ones. Then I met a guy with a really big one who knew how to use it, and well, we all know how that story ends.
@Bunburying It truly amazes me that that myth is still around. Men and women peak hormonally at around the same age (late teens, early 20s) for optimal baby-making purposes. Both genders lose testosterone at a fairly regular rate after that. The study that is CONSTANTLY referenced, by everyone, is a Kinsey study done in 1948, a vastly different time when it comes to sexual education. The criteria they used was total orgasm frequency including masturbation, which anyone with a body can tell you is not the full measure of sexual satisfaction. Basically--it was easier for older ladies to have more orgasms because they had had more time to figure out how to have them, and had probably learned by then not to rely solely on their partners to give them to them. And NO ONE beats teenage boys for total orgasm frequency, it would be a literal impossibility, but I don't think any man would say that the sex he's having in his late 20s is not as good as the sex he was having at 18. "Peak" is a relative term. So actually, this fits pretty neatly with that data, since this is study about how young women's partners aren't giving them orgasms, which pretty much accounted for the discrepancy in the original research! If they surveyed the same 600 people about their total number of orgasms my guess would be you'd see plenty of Os represented on the ladies' side, which is all cool and great.
TL;DR--18 year old boys have always been great at giving themselves orgasms and not so great at giving their partners orgasms. 18 year old girls used to take several years and probably a long-term relationship to figure out how to give themselves orgasms; now they probably just masturbate the next morning after sex they had for fun if they're still aroused, as part of a full and complete sex life.
@redridinghoodrat I can't be the only one who remembers the photo that ruined my life of the breast photoshopped with the lotus pod, and the story was that it was some parasite from Africa or something and oh my god oh my god I'm sorry.
@hallelujah I think that's definitely a class-inflected thing, obviously, but doesn't that make sense? If you have kids when you're in your late teens or very early 20s, you haven't really been yourself for very long. So a baby just tweaks the direction in which you change, at a time when you're changing a lot anyway. I don't have kids yet, but my mother had me when she was 38, and while she's the least dramatic person on the planet, even she says it was a profound shift. That said, she always reads things like this and rolls her eyes and is like "oh, new moms." Because I think while it may take a few years for your sense of self to grow and expand to include these new beings, it clearly happens to most people.
@S. Elizabeth The current camp director at my camp has been coming since he was 6 years old; he was a head counselor when I was a camper, and was hired for the position after the prior director turned out to be a complete maniac. He had replaced the much-beloved director after the management thought they wanted to go in a different direction (less arts and crafts, more religion and kid-shaming) and I am just SO HAPPY that my camp is back in the hands of a normal person who will take good care of it. I mean, not entirely normal, this is a man who's spent probably 5% of his life singing "Baby Shark" at the top of his lungs. But normal for camp :)
@alkthatcher@twitter Wet Hot American Summer is the ur-text on camp, as far as I'm concerned.
@Harriet Welch I got to #4 and my brain started screaming "BATHING SUIT AREA" which was how our camp explained (to campers and counselors alike) where it was not okay to touch another person--anywhere a normal bathing suit would cover. They taught it to the campers in a gentle, age-appropriate way, as in "no one is allowed to touch you there" and in a very serious, liability-affirming way to the staff, as in "we can get sued if you touch a kid there, even if you're just wrestling around or swatting someone who's falling asleep at bonfire."