On The Big Book of Female Killers, Chapter 2: The Marquise de Brinvilliers

No charges or remorse for killing the peasants and trying to poison her serving girl? Not surprising necessarily, but still disgusting.

Posted on July 16, 2014 at 8:33 pm 0

On Falling in Love with an Asexual

As someone who is asexual, I found this piece kind of offensive. Yes, the guy was absolutely wrong about dating a teenager (which the article glossed over, as if that were the most trivial of his offenses). But I don't know that he was a big lying liar with DANGER written all over him. Should he have been honest up front and say I'm a romantic asexual and I'd like to try sex but I really don't know if it will work for me? Probably. But there are lots of big things that only an individual can gauge when they're ready to divulge in a relationship. When does one tell their partner they're trans? Or bi? Or they have low sex drive? Or they're intersex? Or they were sexually assaulted? Or that they're into a certain fetish (or BDSM)? All different situations that may come into play in a sexual relationship (or relationship in general); and I don't know that there is a right answer for when to divulge. I mean probably before you're celebrating your 15th anniversary. But do you have to share them before the first time you have sex? I don't know.
What happened to them was sad, and not really fair to either of them. But what I found offensive that almost one of the first things she asks is what his therapist says about him being asexual (subtext, clearly there's something wrong with you or you wouldn't be asexual). And then she quotes her ignorant friends who refuse to believe in his asexuality, as if what, they're experts? Finally she quotes Dan fucking Savage, who is completely utterly ignorant and awful when it comes to asexuality (not to mention his awfulness about being trans); as evidenced by his quote about not believing asexuality is a real thing. I appreciate her end paragraph, but what came before was pretty awful.

Posted on June 26, 2014 at 4:10 pm 1

On Iceland vs Greece

Siggi's for sure. The only kind of greek yogurt that does it for me is Tillamook Farmstyle Greek Cinnamon Hazelnut, which is pretty spectacular.

Posted on June 25, 2014 at 1:29 pm 0

On RIP, Ruby Dee

I love Ruby Dee so much. What an amazing person she was.

Posted on June 12, 2014 at 6:03 pm 0

On You Belong To Me

This was really lovely, thank you.

Posted on June 12, 2014 at 2:07 pm 0

On Let's Lift Some Beans: The 15-Minute Workout

Yay new video! I hate workouts that are all about how women have to be lean and skinny and bulking up is bad.

Posted on June 12, 2014 at 2:05 pm 0

On Spin, Measure, Cut: Hobby Lobby and the Tangled Skein of Reproductive Rights

This was beautiful. Your great-grandmother sounds remarkable.

What really gets me about the Hobby Lobby thing, is that prior to the Affordable Health Care Act, they DID cover contraception. So apparently their "Christian principles" had not problem with it until it was required coverage.

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 7:57 pm 0

On Which Of The 100 Most-Edited Wikipedia Articles Will You Troll Today?

Why would Deaths in 2009 and Deaths in 2010 be so high on the list (and not the more recent years)?

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 7:46 pm 0

On The Trouble With Reader-Shaming: A Y.A. Book List

@Mistress Sparrow I can see that. And definitely agree on the for women tag or how things get shunted off to genres and have to deal with a stigma of not as literary/good as (like how at some bookstores, all Black fiction authors might get thrown in under an Urban Fiction category, regardless of what their book is actually about).

I actually loved The Book Thief, but it definitely seems to be one of those divisive books that people fall into the love or hate camp with no middle ground. If you're looking for a good WWII YA book, Code Name Verity by Elizabeth Wein is one of my favorite historicals (about the friendship between two women, one a air support pilot, the other a spy).

Posted on June 9, 2014 at 10:03 pm 0

On The Trouble With Reader-Shaming: A Y.A. Book List

@Mistress Sparrow If it changes your mind any about the state of YA literature today, The Book Thief was actually published as adult fiction in Australia (where the author is from) and in many other countries. It was largely labelled as YA in the US because of the young protagonist.

Posted on June 9, 2014 at 6:23 pm 1