On Let's Talk About Birth Control

I used a diaphragm (ugh) until I was in my mid-20s, then I think I tried Depo-Provera for a while, and finally the pill. I had zero issues with it, and in fact it was good for me, as I have a family history of ovarian cancer and not ovulating so much is supposed to help prevent it. But then when I was 43 or so I started feeling crampy and uncomfortable all the time. The doctor said it was already a low-dose version, so there wasn't much of an alternative, pill-wise. I decided to go off it and do nothing, as I thought pregnancy was unlikely at my age and my boyfriend and I basically practiced withdrawal all the time anyway. But now we're broken up and I don't know what to do when I start dating again. I'm 45 so getting pregnant seems even more unlikely, but I sure would hate to find out that I'm one of the "lucky" ones.

Posted on March 17, 2015 at 11:40 am 0

On For The Love Of Love

I am going through a relationship crisis/probably breakup right now and this is so true for me: "I wanted somebody to love me completely so I wouldn’t have to." I've always expected relationships to fix me--even though intellectually I know this is not possible. I'm about to turn 45 and I keep having to learn the same lesson. I wish I could have written this beautiful essay.

Posted on December 27, 2014 at 12:08 pm 0

On Excerpts From The December 2014 Vogue, Presented Without Commentary

@T A@twitter The writer did go back and ask the original gift giver--she couldn't remember but thought it was probably an Hermes scarf. Oops.

Posted on December 2, 2014 at 3:41 pm 0

On November Horoscopes From Galactic Rabbit

Ahhhh so many horoscopes lately have been right on. Especially this one (Capricorn). The work is hard, but I am doing it. No other choice really.

Posted on November 6, 2014 at 4:31 pm 0

On A Really Bad Month

Oh boy I needed this today. Not pregnant, but dealing with the same kind of emotional immaturity in my . . . boyfriend? Ex-boyfriend? I don't know because he won't communicate with me. I will try to keep your last panel in mind.

Posted on November 6, 2014 at 4:28 pm 0

On Never Bring Your Boyfriend to Brunch

"I was thinking this would be just us/ladies only." Problem solved. Friends have said that to me and I have been just fine with it.

Posted on August 19, 2014 at 2:54 pm 1

On The Tragic History of Fallen Teen Magazines

I wasn't wondering what had happened to Atoosa Rubenstein, but after reading this I had to find out: running something called Big Momma Productions.

Posted on August 1, 2014 at 12:30 pm 0

On Trends Men Hate

I once styled and wrote a fashion piece for a major city paper. One guy took the time to find my email address and write me a note, which started out "I may be a guy and not know anything about fashion, but . . . " and then proceeded to tell me how stupid my looks were. Well, I can say he was right about not knowing anything about fashion.

Posted on July 9, 2014 at 4:21 pm 1

On Advice To Jill Abramson from My Mom

Your mom did women a great service. But it's so depressing such an accomplished and self-made woman was paid SO unequally. If that was the case with her, think about the boat that the rest of us must be in. I'm going to spend the rest of the long weekend stewing about this.

Posted on May 23, 2014 at 11:50 am 0

On An Open Letter to Summer Fashion Trends

Agree with everything but the high-waisted shorts. As someone with a long torso and shorter legs, I think they are amazing.

Posted on May 22, 2014 at 2:36 pm 0