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Extremely excited about this series.
@juksie what? you may never have written for women's mags before. since i have, a lot, i found it so on target that it had me lmao even after reading through a couple of times.
@juksie Why do you hate it? Although this is a bit of an exaggeration, women's magazine editors will actually send feedback like this. It's funny because it's true.
@LunaLunaLunaMoth @LunaLunaLunaMoth I don't have a problem with her English at all. That's not what I'm saying. What I have a problem with is the author's choice to portray this woman's thoughts through his own lens and his own perspective, without bringing in a third party to try and bridge the language gap to gain a deeper understanding of what Christina/Angela is saying on a more nuanced level, and/or by writing out the "pidgin" version of their conversation. (In an English-language written piece, especially a narrative like this one, the person "speaking" in broken English is inevitably going to come out sounding like the less eloquent/intelligent speaker.)
I work at an organization that deals pretty heavily with human trafficking/sex trafficking, and I spend a lot of my time handling media portrayals and cultural biases surrounding trafficked women, sex workers, and the gray areas in between these two extremes. It's true that women like Christina/Angela don't tend to write essays for the Hairpin - but that's all the more reason to give them appropriate platforms for when their voices do make it onto sites like these. Sex workers and prostitutes are used way too often as navel-gazing devices for essay writers and society at large - we really don't need another piece that uses them as literary metaphors to make a point.
For what it's worth, I really did think the prose was lovely, their interaction at the end was nice, and if this was done just a little bit differently I would be a lot more comfortable.
@myeviltwin Honestly, I really like the new 'Pin team, and have been a fan of a lot of the stuff that's been put up so far! Maybe it's on me for not commenting more when I like something (?). That said, I feel like there are problems in this piece that need to be addressed...it may just my line of work (human trafficking reporting and prevention) that make me so interested in this. I don't want to not point out problematic issues just because I don't want to offend anyone. (that said keep doin yo thang Jia and Emma, you rock, etc etc).
@mollpants Thanks. I was reminded of that one gay friend some of us had in high school. The one who went out of his way to point out how gross he thought women's bodies were, and sort of got off on making us feel hideous.
I mean, he basically brags about how fond of him she seems, then turns around and makes gaggy barfy gestures.
Noooooot loving this. Writing is lovely and all, but I can't help feeling that I'd be much more comfortable with this if the interview was transcribed directly rather than adding prose as embellishment (and maybe get a translator or, at least, speak with a woman with a more direct grasp of English to avoid the unfortunate pidgin effect).
I'd have loved to read a direct interview with a woman working in this situation, but this is maybe more self-serving than anything.
By phipsi on We're All Jerks
Anybody else out there that cannot stop hate-reading blogs and ragging on their authors? Yeah. You know what site I'm talking about. I've never been into celebrity gossip or politics really...but man...I love hate-reading blogs and it makes me feel so guilty! I have other, more constructive hobbies and consider myself a fairly positive person except for this one guilty pleasure.
The bad thing is that it's starting to seep into other parts of my life. I hate-read people's Facebook pages and rag on them for being lazy and whiny. I should stop! I need to stop. But it feels so goooood.
Wouldn't radical transparency include the fact that the profile was set up exclusively to cull responses for an art project and include using private communication without permission?
@Susanna I do seriously wonder how much time she spent looking at OkCupid profiles. I'm guessing very, very little. I guess spending a ton of time on OKC isn't something to be proud of, but the... touristy? tone of this project bugs me. Take it from me: there is NO shortage of people just as desperate to show how disaffected and "radically honest" and too cool for school they are.
Also half of those messages are spam from people who didn't read her profile, which I'm not sure if she knows or not.