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@Lily Rowan It is insane to base important decisions on accommodating hypothetical bullies from the future.
Maybe your fellow parents shouldn't raise their kids to be assholes.
Had to pop down here and note that for me one of the funniest, dumbest, and most consistent reactions to this highly reasonable point of view is when people are like "BUT WHERE DID THE **AUTHOR'S** NAME COME FROM? A MAN? HER FATHER? REALLY MAKES U THINK"
.... does it now
Long-time Hairpin lurker, and now finally registered so that I could let you know just how much this resonated with me. My parents felt extremely strongly about the power of names, to the extent that not only did my mother keep her name, but that my brother and I have a different last name from either of our parents. It is still a family name - our maternal grandmother's maiden name - and I love having that part of my heritage front and center. But I definitely still get a lot of odd looks and comments when people meet my parents for the first time. Also, our middle names are our parents' hyphenated last names, but I stopped using it on official forms long ago.
I believe someone over at The Good Men Project wrote about having an androgynous pen name...and again having more success when it appeared the pen name was interpreted as male vs female (how the author knew this I'm not clear about). What is most confounding to these two accounts is that, to me, we don't encourage much reading and writing in boys...by we, I mean society of course, but we tell boys to be tough and brave and cast of writing and reading and thoughtfulness as girly. So why then do we, as a collective, appear to value male authors more? It is an interesting and frustrating dichotomy.
Fascinating -- and sad.
By Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) on Commodity Fetish: This Is Not Really What a Feminist Looks Like
@eizverson22 Maybe it'll go out of style. Like, after women and girls worldwide are granted the same rights as men and boys, and the world is a safer, more just place for everyone.
This was great! I guffawed at "He's your *brother*."
@eizverson22 < sarcasm > So true! Like civil rights or something, ugh. Can't wait till it goes out of style. sarcasm >
By Lora Enfield@facebook on A Chronological List of Things Men Said to Me After I Told Them I Had Herpes
This was so so good. I almost cried. Thank you for sharing. Also...please tell me that Bart Simpson cake was really your 23rd birthday cake.
By Diana Clarke@twitter on A Chronological List of Things Men Said to Me After I Told Them I Had Herpes
Oh. This was beautiful and made my chest hurt.