This is one of *the* best Hairpin articles. This is why I come to this site. I can't wait to share this with all my favorite ladies. Thank you Jia!
@Hellcat I really like Target's bedding. They have some great patterns that don't make me feel like a child or too old. Here are some possibilities:
...ok maybe I am shopping for myself now.
Cold water, never hot water for blood! One of my own "I've become a lady" memories from my own mom. B-)
What a beautiful article that really encapsulates my own 2013 friendships, almost exclusively with my girl friends. They are the ones I tell my deepest fears and secrets to, the ones who move hours away but are still close at hand, the ones who spend 12 hrs with you--taking you to the ER for emergency surgery (without leaving your side to eat or drink), the ones who take you home the next day from the hospital.
Thank you so much lady friends! And thank you Jenna for the article!
I've felt more like an adult this year than ever (I turned 26). Part of it is because I've now had 6-7 years of signing leases and paying real bills under my belt. Part of it is because I'm now paying for car insurance, and my car is finally in my name. Part of it is because I've realized the mortality of my family this last year (they're in their 60s-70s). Part of it is because when I was a child and my cousins were married or engaged at 26, I saw it as an "adult" year.
A large part of it is because I can give meaningful advice to people younger than I (although not by much!) and because I have had several work-related breakdowns in 2013 and have since polished my resume.
Woah-ho there, part of the answer to LW3 is kind of harsh: "Frankly, I'm not sure you maintaining a relationship with your parents is actually for the best right now, because it tells them that you're willing to put up with their transphobia and misgendering of your partner, and thus that their hurtful words and actions have no real consequences."
Why not recommend that LW3 send over some articles and have some open conversations with them? The parents are clearly uncomfortable and need a lot of guidance. I'm assuming they would even be too uncomfortable to Google this topic, and to be honest, I doubt they'd know what to look for.
I wholeheartedly disagree with forfeiting (even temporarily) one's relationship with their parents. It's not like one day they'll wake up and say "okay okay we love you both, come back!" Instead they'll think the worst, and it'll fester, they'll blame your S.O. and hate them MORE, and your negative energy will fester, and it'll be 10x worse in a year. I'm obvs not a therapist, but I would think the best thing to do would be to be honest, and say things like "your words and actions are hurtful because it makes me feel X; here is how you should refer to X" etc.
Even by trying to hash it out with them, it should at least show that you are an adult capable of caring for yourself and having responsible relationships, which will in turn allow them to trust you and trust your choice in people.
@Anna Rasche super late reply---thank you both! I didn't know about ultrasonic/steam cleaners but that's great advice.
Loving these! Please keep them coming. I, too, love seeing health info in a body-positive way. Thanks Hairpin!
I am so glad The Hairpin has introduced me to a new way to procrastinate.
Ah! Pearls, my favorite!
I do have a question though: I have an absolutely beautiful freshwater pearl pendant that is encased in silver (hard to explain? it has silver swirls holding it together). The silver has tarnished a bit, and I want to clean it but I'm assuming silver polish shouldn't touch the pearl. Is this a case for a Real Jeweler, or can I still clean it?