When I was a kid my dad told my younger brother (who was like 8 at the time) he couldn't ever hit a woman, not even his sisters. He he was very clear that there would never be a gray area where it would be okay to hit a woman. He was a dude, he would likely be stronger than any female, and it would be *his* responsibility to control his actions, even when angry, and not hit a woman, even if provoked. You know what I'm certain my brother has never done since that conversation? Hit a woman. Not even his sisters.
This is the same damn thing. Unless the person has explicitly said yes, and yes, you need to ask, then you don't get to do anything. No matter how drunk she is.
This may have just tipped me in favor of going to the baseball game tonight. Because: hot dogs.
OMG! I ALSO WENT TO CAMP MITCHMAN IN BEVERLY. That is in fact where I learned the baby bumblebee song.
I am still not okay with the name. Honestly. Dossiant or something would have been much better.
Sock bacteria! YES.
No but seriously, more about science and lady health would probably be nice. I super enjoyed the HPV and herpes stories they ran here.
@large__marge As someone that JUST went through the soul sucking process of trying to find a new apartment in Boston, ZOMG, YES, THAT. It was AWFUL.
Long story time!
I live in the North End. Have lived there for almost 9yrs, 6 in my current abode. Current abode is 450sq ft of glory. Gut renovated before I moved in, so it's got tons of storage (floor to ceiling Ikea built-ins = SHOE CLOSET), hardwood floors, washer/dryer, dishwasher, granite counters, ceiling fans, etc. Soon to be available btw! Just gave notice. I love it. Have always thought it was kind of pricey ($1375/mth) but figured it was a good rent overall. Plus it's never changed a dime in the six years I lived there.
Boyfriend and I decide that we should move in together and both respective homes are too small. Mine might be lovely but it is still just 450sq feet. Based on current salaries and rents, we figure we can pay $3000 a month in rent, a touch more if utilities are included.
DO YOU KNOW THE HORROR OF SOME OF WHAT WE SAW FOR THREE THOUSAND AMERICAN DOLLARS A MONTH?!?! Apartments *smaller* than mine, apartments with windows in the "well, you can kind of see out of it but damn that's tiny" sense, appliances from the 70s, stained carpet, one place smelled completely of trash (and that was in Beacon Hill!).
I'm sorry but it's already insane to be paying $3K a month in rent. But if you're going to do it, you should get something actually worth $3K a month. I remain completely scandalized by the experience.
We lucked out and found a good to great place in the Back Bay for $2450 a month and then went through a horror show trying to get accepted. You would think mid-30s professionals, with good incomes and long, peaceful rental histories would be great potential tenants. HA. After the landlord raised the rent to $2500 a month, he doubled the required security deposit.
Next time I move it is because we've bought something. I'm for serious.
On Boston News
I am trapped in my apartment as ordered. Blinds drawn, doors locked. Two friends are in the thick of it in Watertown. They've been up all night, facebooking it. At the moment they are on the floor, away from all windows, as per ordered by the SWAT team swarming around outside their door.
I was right by bomb 1 on Monday, safe only because I had just gone in a building before it went off. Realized when watching the surveillance video yesterday that the time stamp indicated that I would've been walking up Boylston with the guys.
If I didn't feel so oddly numb, I'm pretty sure I'd be having a massive breakdown right now.
According to Google, I was less than 100 feet from the first bomb when it went off. Had it gone off 8 minutes earlier, I would've been right there.
Today is a weird day. I can't even process how I feel.
@Beatrix Kiddo Because how often are orders drastically different? That is the basic point of it. 20% tip on a $200 bill split 5 ways is only $8 a person. Even if your part of that $200 was only $20, you'd still be paying $4 on your own for tip. Next time you go out, it might be you that spent a bit more than the total group. It basically boils down to the fact that tip is a relatively small percentage of the overall bill, especially once you split it up several ways. A few bucks here and there washes out over time.
But in all honesty, it's never all that different. Entrees at most establishments run about the same. If you're paying for the individual items you ordered and you order four expensive cocktails, you're paying for four expensive cocktails, not the rest of the group. You wind up getting stiffed or paying more than your fair share when you split the entire bill evenly. That's never cool.
No one person is ever going to order so much more than the group that they drive the total tip up on every one by a lot and no one person is ever going to order so little compared to the group that they wind up paying a lot more than is fair. And in the rare cases where that does happen, in my group of friends at least, the ones that spent a ton always go "I'll throw in some extra for the tip because I did have three bottles of wine and flambe for dessert".
And this is why my friend and I have developed a very good system for check splitting in a big group. We lump tax and tip for the entire bill together, divide by the table, and then everyone puts in for their individual items. It *always* works out and there are never any hard feelings. And no one is ever that person that stiffs the group on a few bucks.
And also I have no problem being a grownup (asshole?) and asking each person at the table what they had and what they put in if we do wind up a few bucks short. And saying 'so then you still owe for tax/tip' if they have neglected to account for that. But that is how we came to the system we use now. It saves a lot of time and potential hard feelings.
But we're also fairly honest with each other and no one ever feels bad about saying I'm broke or whatever. "I'd love to but I can't afford it" is all that needs to be said ever. No one has a problem going to a cheaper place or just grabbing a burger at a pub or something.