On On Being Photographed: "Female-Female Spiritual Transsexual" The World Famous *BOB* Presents the Subject's Point of View
Omg, *BOB*! We were just talking about you the other day, remembering how much fun you were at Foxy. Can't wait to see the book.
@gimlet @DrFeelGood Two years late to this party - how did I miss this article? I used the UK Persona device and it was eventually revealed that the failure rate was a lot higher than they were letting on. There was a successful class action lawsuit against them too: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/2030864.stm
@SarcasticFringehead For me the easy solution is just to take the kitchen bin out to the compost bin without the mistaken frustrating expectation that a bag will cope.
I don't use a bag, I just line the bin with a few layers of scrap paper (often containing the kind of information that you would otherwise have to shred, which gets conveniently deactivated by bin juice) and it tends to all dump out fairly cleanly. And you don't have to buy compostable bags.
Several birds; one stone.
I thought this was going to be about the New Yorker: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/27/new-yorker-all-male-issue-april-29-2013_n_3169623.html?utm_hp_ref=women
But everyone has a woman problem, so I guess it is about everyone.
@eleventyone My point about James Bond is that it is just as problematic (white, bourgeois, materialistic, insert your issue here) but somehow it doesn't get the same stick as a programme like SatC, because JB is for "everyone" and SatC is "for women". If you prefer an example that is more relatable you can substitute The Big Bang Theory, Friends, Frasier or any other show on tv. But this is the core of the problem. Why is it that a commercial product like SatC is thought to represent women? Because it has women in it? Who has held it up as an example? And why don't we hold every other cultural product up to the same standards as this show about women, which women like?
I think sometimes when a group of people feel marginalised they look to the nearest cultural thing (music, tv, etc) - no matter how flawed - where they can see themselves represented, so although there is no feminist agenda apparent in SatC, there are some relatable characters and there is 'female' subject matter (I don't mean shoes, but breast cancer, sexual harassment, dating men, etc). But it's too easy to say "Okay, that's the tv programme women can watch and enjoy so it is a women's show about women."
I don't know if 'everyone' was talking about which character they were - I have never heard this from any of my friends who liked the show - or about the shoes, but if people were talking about it this sounds like the kind of thing that advertisers like, and advertising isn't about women, it's about making money. I assume this kind of thing turned up in magazines aimed at selling stuff to women. But this is how, as blushingflower says, "women are socialized to devalue the things they like and discredit their own taste." No one says, Hey, I like seeing interesting, multi-dimensional women on tv and I don't care about their shoes, so I'll watch the show but I'm going to stop buying magazines that try to peddle this rubbish, or I'm going to write to the advertisers or whatever, they say, Oh no, this show is crap now and then suddenly the narrative becomes misogynistic - women are shallow so the show is all about merch, these women made us think they were feminists but they're not, this is why we (women) can't have nice things, etc.
@stonefruit Ok I am reading the fot on Monday so will you ever see this? But I wanted to ask if you had a skin scrape for yeast diagnosis or if it was diagnosed by symptoms, because I had itchy, burned-looking armpits a month after using natural deodorant (it was a homemade kind but virtually identical to the Soapwalla). I looked around the web and found that some people have a bad reaction to the sweat and baking soda mixing. It makes some kind of corrosive chemical. I made the deodorant again with less baking soda but it didn't work anymore. :-(
My doctor looked at it and wanted to call it a yeast infection too because of how it looked but I know what I had was not yeast because it went away when I stopped using my deodorant but I never treated it or anything, and we all know how hard yeast can be to treat (ie it doesn't just go away on its own).
@eringobragh Omg. I'm so sorry! But it is a little like an illness with these people, so maybe feel sorry for her - ? (That thing with the placemats is wrong - and I'm a huge Obama supporter - but as a futile protest it is also making me laugh.)
Thanks for sharing your story Sarah.
It was my aunt who told me my dad was a child molester and another aunt and my stepsister confirmed it. As a child I only saw him every other weekend - my parents were divorced - so wasn't subject to the same conditions as his other victims, but I still worry that he abused me and I've repressed it. That is very unlikely but knowing what I know has made me paranoid. When I found out - I was 22 - I cut off all contact with him and, as other relatives failed to keep my address confidential, I now have no contact with his side of the family.
I understand why people are concerned about reporting these things to the police, but you can't charge a 16 year old with that kind of responsibility. (In my father's case the police were told but fucked up the whole thing by questioning one of his potential victims - my younger halfsister - in front of him, so that didn't go so well.) The responsibility for this kind of crime rests solely with the criminal.
Slightly off-topic, but has anyone read the book? I found it so dark, disturbing and depressing that I think it made me view the series in a slightly different light.