On Dating a Quasi-Boss, Becoming Lesbian Othello, and Taking the Road Less Confusing

@Kira-Lynn@twitter I can't speak to the letter writer's reasons, but I'm bi and often date guys and I like being out because I think it's important for straight people to be aware of how many non-straight people are all around them. It might make them less likely to assume people are straight until proven otherwise in the future. Or at least think for a minute before saying homophobic shit. I've met a shocking number of people who don't believe that being bi is a real thing and cross examine me about it! I hope that by being out I'm increasing their exposure to the mind boggling mystery of bisexuality. Also, I read that people who have gay (or queer) acquaintances are more likely to vote for gay marriage.Possibly bullshit since I can't remember where I read it, but it's worth a try.

Posted on June 11, 2014 at 12:30 pm 0

On Multilingual Gibberish

@Lauren_O'Neal European Portuguese does sound oddly like Russian. I thought the gibberish in the video sounded more Italian. But maybe this works better for languages you don't speak--I was totally convinced by the other languages.

Posted on March 11, 2014 at 1:56 am 0

On Multilingual Gibberish

Posted on March 11, 2014 at 1:56 am 0

On Multilingual Gibberish

Her language skills are awesome, but those are not remotely the sounds of Portuguese!

Posted on March 10, 2014 at 5:01 pm 1

On It's All In Your Head: A Conversation About Being Sick Without a Diagnosis

@likearollingpin A bunch of my friends have had similar problems and never gotten helpful diagnoses either. I was finally cured by baking soda after spending a bunch of money on doctors and useless pills. I'm glad your issues are better now too!

Posted on January 30, 2014 at 8:08 pm 0

On It's All In Your Head: A Conversation About Being Sick Without a Diagnosis

I had chronic vag pain for 6 years and went to like 10 doctors, and I can relate so hard to this article. My condition wasn't nearly as debilitating but it was shitty. I got so tired of having to go through the same routine with each doctor, like "No it's not that, I already got tested for that, those antibiotics definitely won't help." I got a few different diagnoses but they didn't have any treatments. I went to female doctors, so I never got told it was all in my head (although I worried that it was), but a few of them apologetically told me that they have tons of patients with the same symptoms but the medical industry doesn't want to invest in a "minor" problem that mostly affects women.

Posted on January 30, 2014 at 1:06 pm 0

On What I've Learned From Three Years Without Shampoo

This sounds really tempting, but I have a few questions:
-Can you use other kinds of vinegar or does it have to be apple cider? They don't sell apple cider vinegar where I live.
-Don't baking soda and vinegar explode when you mix them? I might be misremembering 6th grade science class but this seems like a scary mixture.
-Does this make your hair really dry? I swim in the ocean a lot and my hair gets super dried out and turns into weird dense straw.
-If you do moisturizing stuff like coconut oil treatments, is the vinegar/baking soda enough to get it all out of your hair?

Thanks for any tips! I have thick wavy hair that takes a long time to get oily. I wash it about once every 4 or 5 days now but I would love to stop using stupid products entirely.

Posted on January 26, 2014 at 9:13 am 0

On Interview with a Santeria Priestess

This was super interesting!! Jia, can you interview someone who practices Candomblé or Umbanda? It seems very similar to Lucumi in some ways and I would love to learn about how the traditions diverged. And I want to know all about macumba!

Posted on December 7, 2013 at 1:31 pm 0

On 13 Months Alone in Bangkok

@xxAnniexx I have some tips! I moved to Rio de Janeiro two years ago and it was a great decision. Way more fun than New York.

It totally depends on your skill set, but unless you already know a foreign language or are really high up in your field you kinda have to start out teaching English. I moved here without only a volunteer job set up ahead of time and found work teaching private English lessons after a few days. (Depending on the country, it can be useful to get a TEFL certification. I got one but I wish I had just lied about it because no one ever checks. I think Asia is generally stricter though.) Many volunteer positions offer housing, especially in Latin America. I found good stuff on this janky site: http://www.volunteersouthamerica.net/

If moving without a job stresses you out you can look for jobs on a site called eslcafe.com. In my experience, though, private lessons usually pay better than formal jobs at schools. I found my students by talking to people on buses and posting on the local craigslist type site.

I hate teaching English so I've also supplemented my income doing translation, voice overs, nude modeling, and working online for an American company.

Once you get established somewhere you have a better chance of finding real job opportunities. I work in international development type stuff so I got a paying job at an NGO. You can also look for grants and fellowships in your field.

Visa rules are really different in every country though, so you should research that thoroughly. I'm not allowed to work in Brazil so all my work is under the table.

Good luck!!

Posted on November 18, 2013 at 6:37 pm 1

On Ridden By the Hag: My Sleep Paralysis Visitors

@lalalaloveyou I know this post is a few days old but I'm really excited that other people have the same experience as me! (I mean, not excited that it happens. Night terrors suck. But I'm glad I'm not the only one.) I had them really bad for a few years, like I would regularly be woken up by my own screams. Mine almost always involve creepy bugs and spiders crawling near me, and sometimes people sitting creepily still in my room. They really freak me out because I sit up and have conscious thoughts, but the hallucinations don't go away until I turn on a light or try to touch them(gaaaaah).

Sleeping with another person helps, but unofrtunately the only thing that really helped was having them come true--last year I woke up a horrifying huge centipede crawling down the wall towards me. Since the I haven't had many night terrors. This really won't work if yours are about people in your house though.

Now I keep waking myself up by laughing in my sleep. My sleeping brain must be overactive.

Posted on November 5, 2013 at 12:55 pm 0