This was super interesting!! Jia, can you interview someone who practices Candomblé or Umbanda? It seems very similar to Lucumi in some ways and I would love to learn about how the traditions diverged. And I want to know all about macumba!
@xxAnniexx I have some tips! I moved to Rio de Janeiro two years ago and it was a great decision. Way more fun than New York.
It totally depends on your skill set, but unless you already know a foreign language or are really high up in your field you kinda have to start out teaching English. I moved here without only a volunteer job set up ahead of time and found work teaching private English lessons after a few days. (Depending on the country, it can be useful to get a TEFL certification. I got one but I wish I had just lied about it because no one ever checks. I think Asia is generally stricter though.) Many volunteer positions offer housing, especially in Latin America. I found good stuff on this janky site: http://www.volunteersouthamerica.net/
If moving without a job stresses you out you can look for jobs on a site called eslcafe.com. In my experience, though, private lessons usually pay better than formal jobs at schools. I found my students by talking to people on buses and posting on the local craigslist type site.
I hate teaching English so I've also supplemented my income doing translation, voice overs, nude modeling, and working online for an American company.
Once you get established somewhere you have a better chance of finding real job opportunities. I work in international development type stuff so I got a paying job at an NGO. You can also look for grants and fellowships in your field.
Visa rules are really different in every country though, so you should research that thoroughly. I'm not allowed to work in Brazil so all my work is under the table.
@lalalaloveyou I know this post is a few days old but I'm really excited that other people have the same experience as me! (I mean, not excited that it happens. Night terrors suck. But I'm glad I'm not the only one.) I had them really bad for a few years, like I would regularly be woken up by my own screams. Mine almost always involve creepy bugs and spiders crawling near me, and sometimes people sitting creepily still in my room. They really freak me out because I sit up and have conscious thoughts, but the hallucinations don't go away until I turn on a light or try to touch them(gaaaaah).
Sleeping with another person helps, but unofrtunately the only thing that really helped was having them come true--last year I woke up a horrifying huge centipede crawling down the wall towards me. Since the I haven't had many night terrors. This really won't work if yours are about people in your house though.
Now I keep waking myself up by laughing in my sleep. My sleeping brain must be overactive.
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I got my hands on R. Crumb and Aline Kominsky's Dirty Laundry comics at a really young age and it probably made me into the sex pervert I am today... they're super graphic and kind of disgusting but they made me think about sexuality long before it was relevant to my life--"He's doing gross mean stuff to her but she seems to like it??"
I read She's Come Undone when I was 11 or so and I vividly remember the scene where they debate whether to "have sex" or "make love" and I didn't get the difference AT ALL.
I have vague memories of Many Waters being really weird and something illicit about the nephilim.
@cupcakecore Disagree, if it's not going well you can just picture Method Man and problem solved.
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@yeah-elle Paramount Wang!!! I went to high school with a guy named Paramount Wang!
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@Lily Rowan But why do people from the East Coast pronounce Mario Mary-o?? Can anyone explain this? Isn't New York full of Italians who say it right?
LW2, I highly recommend a sex blog called quizzicalpussy.com that's written by a disabled person. A lot of it is just focused on sex, but she writes some interesting things about relationships and pleasure in the context of pain and exhaustion. I have a chronic pain dealie that can interfere with dating and I found her perspective really helpful. Not a direct tip about dating, but I like hearing about other peoples' experiences...
Does the "Part 1" mean there will be a Part 2??