@PotatoPotato You pun was bad and you should feel bad!
I approve of this whole thread (pun intended).
@punkahontas Time would fly!
I honestly don't understand why guys feel the need to be so pretentiously dramatic about a "breaking things off" kind of deal, especially when it's not that serious. Like, did you proofread your fucking email and realize how awful it is? Just say, "Hey listen, I'm not that interested." SIX WORDS NO MORE NEEDED.
at least, that's my opinion. "Ohhhh I hope I didn't lead you on" "I hope I'm not being a dick" "I hope your fragile little heart will be able to live without the blessing of my love"
even the compliments piss me off. I don't fucking need you to tell me I'm being courageous. I don't need your shitty ass pity validation. Get the fuck out of my life.
so how was everybody else's weekend?
This whole paragraph right here, we all need to live vicariously through you because it is THE BEST!
It backfired, of course, but once I got over the initial shock of Ely’s email, I was mad as hell. That’s important, too. My momentary aligning myself with my aggressor — and his hatred of me, when you get right down to it, not only for having the gall to be flawed but also for spotlighting his own tremendous shortcomings — gave way to what I know: that I am worthy of being loved. How dare Ely insinuate I’m not. How dare he think I am somehow not good enough for him. I never responded to his email, but I did see him at a local café once. He positioned himself behind a column so that he was partially concealed, and I liked knowing he was uncomfortable. I liked knowing that he was the one who felt the need to hide.
What kind of douchebag comments on his date's posture? I know that's the least of his douchiness, but it bugs the shit out of me.
Carla, you are so beautiful and brave! I'm glad you know it, too. Thank you for sharing this with us.
@dj pomegranate Best convo I ever had with my Ph.D. advisor:
Her: (blah blah blah breathing fumes on me)
Me (blinking): Would you like some gum?
Her: No, thank you.
Me: Yes you would.
Her: Oh. Ohhhh. Yes, please.
@WhiskeySour No banana should ever be that nonchalant. :-/
By mlle.gateau on On Second Chances
Ugh, poor LW! Yes, he is being creepy, but he doesn't know that because he's wound up in his emotions, but A Lady is totally right.
LW, you are not in love with this lady. You are in love with what you had before you screwed up, and you will never, ever, get that back. It's like how sometimes I miss my first boyfriend- I don't really miss him, I miss that relationship, the newness and excitingness of it, I miss how open I was to new things and how amazing things felt. That boyfriend was a total asshole, but I miss the first-ness of everything before he went into asshole mode. LW, I think that's what you miss. You don't miss this lady, you miss what life was like when you were with her, and now that you're "almost 30" you realize that all of sudden shit is real and life is hard, and it would be so much nicer if you still had this sweet lady with you.
Don't go after her. Let her go, because she's not what you want, and she can't give you what you want. No one can. Get a hobby, find new things to fill the void, grow up. And when you meet the next lady, remember what you learned, and try not to fuck it up. Rinse, repeat.