@CheddarBiscuit As someone who received $300 or whatever Le Creuset cookware as a birthday gift a year or two ago, I can say that it is TOTALLY WORTH IT. I got a dutch oven, a small sauce pot, and a big saute pan, all in the enameled cast iron, and I use those three pieces of cookware more than I use almost anything else in my kitchen. Sometimes that expensive cookware is WORTH IT. But mostly our feelings right now should be YAY WE ARE GETTING MARRIED amirite?
@Mira Thanks for this--makes me feel a little better, I'm just aware that people can be very judgey! My mom said the following two things which are part of the reason I am registering for fancy things:
"Your generation takes this way too seriously. Register for things you would like. It is an old tradition to have people help you set up your new home. This is the one and only time this will happen for you."
And also the following which I found touching because she isn't very sentimental (to set the scene a bit more--she is definitely not a stay-at-home mom type, she's an attorney and a career woman who broke down the glass ceiling in her firm by being the first female attorney hired back in the 1980s, now the firm is probably 50% lady attorneys and she's one of the partners): "Even though I do not take mine out that often when I do and set a pretty table for my family it makes me happy. One day I hope it does the same for you. Sappy mom."
Also wow, $800 cake knife, that's intense. What happened to registering for a range of items in lots of price ranges.
This gives me so much anxiety, especially since I am in the process of registering, and I have registered for some beautiful (expensive) things. Yes I've registered for every day stuff that I need (I don't have a single plate or bowl without a chip in it so there's a simple Crate and Barrel set on my list) but I also registered for fine china, and will probably register for silverware and crystal too. Yes, my mother insisted, but honestly she has a point--some of my favorite childhood memories are preparing for Thanksgiving or Passover by hanging with my parents and sister and chatting while we polished the special silverware, or cleaned the nice plates. It meant the occasion was special and we got to use the special things, and my parents have had their china for 30+ years. So my pre-husband registered for a gorgeous set that we love, and we think we'd love for 30+ years.
So yes, it is stuff, but it is beautiful stuff with which I hope to make memories with my new family, and I hope to one day pass it down to my future kid(s). Maybe this makes me a horrible person? I made sure to put on our registry page that the best gift a guest could give is their presence at our wedding, but I also know I have a lot of family and parental friends who are definitely on the "want to get the bride and groom nice things" list. So I guess it assuages my guilt a bit that the parental-aged professionals with secure two-income households and adult children can do the $$$ gifts, and my friends can just show up and drink and have fun.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't--pre-engaged me would have loved this but engaged me is somewhat displeased with the judgmental tone.
The writer of that add-on Sex Diary is Twitter user/NYMag commenter @ComfortablySmug (real name Shashank Tripathi ) who Tweeted all that false information during Hurricane Sandy and basically freaked out many people and also made them horribly angry. He's more or less one of the worst people to exist on the Internet
Yeah uh, Gendry and Jon Snow need to be MUCH higher on the list, and Sandor "The Hound" Clegane should be lower as should Ned Stark (sorry Sean Bean doesn't do it for me). Jon Snow is EASILY a top five. I don't understand this. I am confused and will not answer the question.
@frigwiggin Additionally many people don't take off their bridal jewelry (rings, etc.) at all.
@Bittersweet Yessss that. I saw the Night Music revival a few years ago, Catherine Zeta-Jones was all wrong but Angela Lansbury was all right (more like ALL PERFECT) so it all worked out, even when Angela Lansbury forgot/repeated a line in "Liaisons," it was adorable.
@lucy snowe Glynis Johns is THE BEST in all the things that she does.
@MarianTheLibrarian These are all really really good stories, do you ever wonder "what if"?