@zeytin I've been really bummed about the lack of comments too. However I've recently been having difficulty logging in using my Twitter account, which means I'm not as chatty as I might otherwise be. But then I remembered that this happened before and I made a regular account, so here I am. There are posts I love here, and posts I love at the Toast, and there are posts I love on both sites that I'm "meh" about. But I do hate seeing the commentariat split between the sites and the the numbers dwindle here.
@bowtiesarecool I was really happy to learn that in MD, if you make an advance directive, there is a subsection for if you are pregnant, and you can make the same choices or different ones as if you are not pregnant.
@supernintendochalmers It's not up to me, or you, or the state of Texas to make the decision. I'm not her next of kin. I'm guessing neither are you. The state certainly isn't. She made a decision, she discussed it with her next of kin, and her wishes are being ignored. This is an egregious example of the state deciding that a woman's primary function is childbearing, regardless of her feelings on the matter.
@MandyAnne - Fair point. I was actually on the show and I'm sure that if I rewatched the episode I would find that I made declarative statements when I knew I was right; I definitely do that at home.
@supernintendochalmers There's also the problem that since the mother was deprived of oxygen, the fetus may well have been too. And that in brain death, the rest of the body will start to follow. So we have no idea what kind of long-term damage the fetus has already suffered/may suffer in the future.
I haven't read the linked piece, but it would seem to me that you would find a fair bit of uptalk in Jeopardy! since you're supposed to answer in the form of a question.
Is it victim-blaming to teach defensive driving? If I can avoid an accident because of something I learned and practiced, isn't that better than saying "well, not all accidents can be prevented, so we'll just not bother"?
I have in my head this (admittedly imperfect) analogy of rape and drunk driving.
We have waged a full-on cultural campaign against drunk driving. It seems to be working. At the same time, there will always be people who get behind the wheel when they shouldn't. I can't stop them; I can't make their choices. What I can do is learn how to handle my vehicle confidently and competently and how to avoid accidents when possible. That still won't stop me from getting t-boned by a drunk driver, and if I do, it will be that driver's fault.
We can teach "yes means yes" all day long, we can shout it from the rooftops, proclaim it in the pulpits, and make a million very special episodes about it. There will still be people who commit rape. Teaching me how to stop an attempted rape when it is possible isn't saying "all rape is preventable", it's saying "some rape can be stopped, here's how". Some rapes can be stopped. Some can't. Some can, but at a price the victim isn't willing to pay (e.g. shooting the rapist).
I'm not in favor of an attitude that teaches women to live in fear. teaching women that they are WORTH defending and that they are capable of doing so is a lot more feminist than teaching women to live in fear or to accept rape as a fact of life.
@Story #2 You are not a bad feminist because you chose not to meet violence with violence. You made what you felt was the best available choice to you at the time, when you were presented with two shitty choices.
@EleanorHiggsByson I have that same critique about Shawn's comments for Element. He will occasionally comment on how good some of the other groups look (his comments on the socks one of the all-male groups were wearing, for example), but it really is frustrating to see the women praised first and foremost for their appearance instead of whether or not they can sing.
Also, and this is really catty but I don't care, I really hated Element's version of "Raise Your Glass", partly because I found it completely unbelievable. There is no one in that group (esp. the way they dress them in the sparkly mini-dresses) who I believe has any idea what it is like to say "Fuck it, I am a freak, and I own that, haters gonna hate, I'm gonna celebrate". They didn't capture the spirit of the song.