On Ask a Clean Person About Her New Book: A Conversation With Jolie Kerr

I think one of the great things about Jolie's tone is that she assumes you know nothing NOW, but that you are capable of learning. She never assumes that we don't know how to clean X because we're stupid, but rather than no one ever taught us.

Posted on February 24, 2014 at 3:53 pm 3

On Friday Open Thread

@isabelle bleu - you can get email updates from the Pin! I got yours that way. If you go to the settings at the top right of the page, you should be able to set up what email notifications.

Posted on February 24, 2014 at 2:28 pm 0

On Impress Her With a Clean Bong

I was so stoked when I got the email from Amazon saying that it was now available on my Kindle. I had to stop myself from reading it during dinner b/c I do not think my boyfriend would have appreciated it. But it is so funny! Also, I am excited for the day when someone has a cleaning emergency and I can be the hero because I have Jolie's book.

Posted on February 24, 2014 at 1:24 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@zeytin I've been really bummed about the lack of comments too. However I've recently been having difficulty logging in using my Twitter account, which means I'm not as chatty as I might otherwise be. But then I remembered that this happened before and I made a regular account, so here I am. There are posts I love here, and posts I love at the Toast, and there are posts I love on both sites that I'm "meh" about. But I do hate seeing the commentariat split between the sites and the the numbers dwindle here.

Posted on February 24, 2014 at 12:38 pm 1

On On the Brain-Dead Texas Woman Being Kept Alive to Gestate a Fetus

@bowtiesarecool I was really happy to learn that in MD, if you make an advance directive, there is a subsection for if you are pregnant, and you can make the same choices or different ones as if you are not pregnant.

Posted on January 10, 2014 at 11:14 am 0

On On the Brain-Dead Texas Woman Being Kept Alive to Gestate a Fetus

@supernintendochalmers It's not up to me, or you, or the state of Texas to make the decision. I'm not her next of kin. I'm guessing neither are you. The state certainly isn't. She made a decision, she discussed it with her next of kin, and her wishes are being ignored. This is an egregious example of the state deciding that a woman's primary function is childbearing, regardless of her feelings on the matter.

Posted on January 10, 2014 at 11:13 am 0

On What Is: The Relationship Between Jeopardy and Uptalk?

@MandyAnne - Fair point. I was actually on the show and I'm sure that if I rewatched the episode I would find that I made declarative statements when I knew I was right; I definitely do that at home.

Posted on January 8, 2014 at 2:36 pm 0

On On the Brain-Dead Texas Woman Being Kept Alive to Gestate a Fetus

@supernintendochalmers There's also the problem that since the mother was deprived of oxygen, the fetus may well have been too. And that in brain death, the rest of the body will start to follow. So we have no idea what kind of long-term damage the fetus has already suffered/may suffer in the future.

Posted on January 8, 2014 at 1:55 pm 1

On What Is: The Relationship Between Jeopardy and Uptalk?

I haven't read the linked piece, but it would seem to me that you would find a fair bit of uptalk in Jeopardy! since you're supposed to answer in the form of a question.

Posted on January 8, 2014 at 1:52 pm 0

On The Shark Has Pretty Teeth, Dear: Why I Teach Women Self-Defense

Is it victim-blaming to teach defensive driving? If I can avoid an accident because of something I learned and practiced, isn't that better than saying "well, not all accidents can be prevented, so we'll just not bother"?
I have in my head this (admittedly imperfect) analogy of rape and drunk driving.
We have waged a full-on cultural campaign against drunk driving. It seems to be working. At the same time, there will always be people who get behind the wheel when they shouldn't. I can't stop them; I can't make their choices. What I can do is learn how to handle my vehicle confidently and competently and how to avoid accidents when possible. That still won't stop me from getting t-boned by a drunk driver, and if I do, it will be that driver's fault.
We can teach "yes means yes" all day long, we can shout it from the rooftops, proclaim it in the pulpits, and make a million very special episodes about it. There will still be people who commit rape. Teaching me how to stop an attempted rape when it is possible isn't saying "all rape is preventable", it's saying "some rape can be stopped, here's how". Some rapes can be stopped. Some can't. Some can, but at a price the victim isn't willing to pay (e.g. shooting the rapist).
I'm not in favor of an attitude that teaches women to live in fear. teaching women that they are WORTH defending and that they are capable of doing so is a lot more feminist than teaching women to live in fear or to accept rape as a fact of life.

Posted on January 7, 2014 at 9:52 pm 2