@MandyAnne - Fair point. I was actually on the show and I'm sure that if I rewatched the episode I would find that I made declarative statements when I knew I was right; I definitely do that at home.
@supernintendochalmers There's also the problem that since the mother was deprived of oxygen, the fetus may well have been too. And that in brain death, the rest of the body will start to follow. So we have no idea what kind of long-term damage the fetus has already suffered/may suffer in the future.
I haven't read the linked piece, but it would seem to me that you would find a fair bit of uptalk in Jeopardy! since you're supposed to answer in the form of a question.
Is it victim-blaming to teach defensive driving? If I can avoid an accident because of something I learned and practiced, isn't that better than saying "well, not all accidents can be prevented, so we'll just not bother"?
I have in my head this (admittedly imperfect) analogy of rape and drunk driving.
We have waged a full-on cultural campaign against drunk driving. It seems to be working. At the same time, there will always be people who get behind the wheel when they shouldn't. I can't stop them; I can't make their choices. What I can do is learn how to handle my vehicle confidently and competently and how to avoid accidents when possible. That still won't stop me from getting t-boned by a drunk driver, and if I do, it will be that driver's fault.
We can teach "yes means yes" all day long, we can shout it from the rooftops, proclaim it in the pulpits, and make a million very special episodes about it. There will still be people who commit rape. Teaching me how to stop an attempted rape when it is possible isn't saying "all rape is preventable", it's saying "some rape can be stopped, here's how". Some rapes can be stopped. Some can't. Some can, but at a price the victim isn't willing to pay (e.g. shooting the rapist).
I'm not in favor of an attitude that teaches women to live in fear. teaching women that they are WORTH defending and that they are capable of doing so is a lot more feminist than teaching women to live in fear or to accept rape as a fact of life.
@Story #2 You are not a bad feminist because you chose not to meet violence with violence. You made what you felt was the best available choice to you at the time, when you were presented with two shitty choices.
@EleanorHiggsByson I have that same critique about Shawn's comments for Element. He will occasionally comment on how good some of the other groups look (his comments on the socks one of the all-male groups were wearing, for example), but it really is frustrating to see the women praised first and foremost for their appearance instead of whether or not they can sing.
Also, and this is really catty but I don't care, I really hated Element's version of "Raise Your Glass", partly because I found it completely unbelievable. There is no one in that group (esp. the way they dress them in the sparkly mini-dresses) who I believe has any idea what it is like to say "Fuck it, I am a freak, and I own that, haters gonna hate, I'm gonna celebrate". They didn't capture the spirit of the song.
Anybody who says that all-female groups can't have depth just needs to listen to Sweet Honey in the Rock*. Yes, they augment with percussion instruments on a lot of their tracks, but Ysaye Barnwell's range is INSANE.
*Actually, EVERYONE needs to listen to them. http://sweethoneyintherock.org/ They've had kick-ass ASL interpretation at their live shows for 20+ years and their harmonies will make you want to cry.
I am trying to think of circumstances in which it would be advisable to broadcast my mood to other people and I am having a difficult time. I mean, my face is expressive enough already, I don't need my clothes to tell you that I'm pissed off (or horny at inappropriate times).
@slutberry Wow, yeah, there is a LOT of "why didn't they X?" in that critique that is easily answered by reading the book.